Someone who is still getting over their ex isn’t fully emotionally available to you.

This means that the more you date him and become emotionally attached, the more susceptible you are to getting hurt.

No matter how into it he seems to be whenever he is talking to you or taking you out on dates, there remains a part of him that is emotionally compromised.

Although he believes he is over his ex and tries to reassure you of this, you can’t ignore the telling signs that he isn’t.

This is where he continues to either communicate with said ex or allows said ex to communicate with him.

Even if he chooses not to respond to a text message or phone call from her whenever she reaches out, he is still leaving a channel of communication open with her.

There is a part of him that takes comfort in knowing that his ex-girlfriend is reaching out to him.

It lets him know that she still cares for him.

Even though he makes it clear to you that he never answers her phone calls or text messages, keeping a channel of communication with her still open usually means that he hasn’t let her go completely.

All it takes is a bad day where the two of you get into a fight, and the next thing you know, he is answering her or, worse, initiating a phone call or text message to her.

It’s far too dangerous to have his ex-girlfriend connected to him in any capacity.

Whether it be through his phone, social media, real-world friend group, coworkers, etc.

As long as she has any kind of access to him, whether it be in person, online, or by phone, the temptation is always present that he could give in to her persistence in time.

The fact that you are dating him makes it that much likely that his ex-girlfriend will intensify how often she attempts to interact with him.

An ex usually doesn’t like it when the other moves on to someone else.

This is especially true when they haven’t found a new person for themselves.

By dating him, you make his ex-girlfriend that much more aware that she is alone and hasn’t found a new boyfriend.

This motivates her to increase the number of text messages she sends him while using suggestive language she knows used to work on him when they were in a relationship.

Similarly, she wears sexy dresses and makeup she knows he would love on her.

Being his ex-girlfriend, she knows what turns him on.

Meanwhile, you aren’t going to be physically present at all times, considering that you would have your own life.

When you are at work, school, the gym, church, hanging out with friends and family, etc., he is not present.

Meaning, when his ex-girlfriend decides to turn up the seduction, thanks to the knowledge that he is dating you, he is vulnerable.

Since he hasn’t gotten over his ex and has kept multiple channels of communication with her open, whether it be by phone, social media, or in person, he will struggle to withstand the seduction and not give into it.

Having to date a guy with this threat constantly looming in the background can lead to a great deal of stress.

The kind of stress that leads to arguments with him.

Arguments that further diminish his discipline, compelling him to give in to her persistence.

Later, you learn he has actively given in to the seduction, leaving you heartbroken and feeling betrayed.

Needless to say, getting over someone who is still getting over their ex is not a good idea.