Playing games to get someone to like you is damaging in the long term.
The games can get you that person in the short term, but they ultimately lead to you losing that person in the long term.
When you play games, you act in an unnatural way so as to psychologically get the person you like to like you back.
Whether it be playing hard to get by making yourself regularly unavailable for conversations and dates or giving the impression that you are distracted by lots of other male suitors as you keep withholding compliments and affection from him, the games lead to a voracious desire on his part to be with you.
Sadly, your friend was already intrigued or attracted to your ex before the two of you broke up.
Flirtatious exchanges occurred between them, whether it was through eye contact or physical touch, while you were still in a relationship with your now ex.
These flirtatious exchanges were subtle enough for you to miss them, but they probably happened.
Meanwhile, your head was in the clouds, hopelessly in love with him, when in fact he had already exchanged some flirtatious moments with your friend.
Getting into an LDR or long-distance relationship is challenging enough, let alone one with someone from another country.
There are so many complications with this approach alone that make it a bad idea, from the logistics of communicating in different time zones and finding ways to meet in person to the nuances of language, culture, and religion.
Although we all want love and companionship, connecting with someone over borders and oceans is not necessary and is a bad idea.
Your first choice should be to find someone in close proximity to you.
Although you have had a rough time getting men to take you more seriously, it’s vital you look back on the sort of men you have chosen to date in the past.
When you keep dating men who are far more stuck on your beauty than they are on who you are as a person, you will keep getting into relationships with men who won’t take you seriously.
By being too quick to sleep with men who have primarily demonstrated an interest in you physically, you are bound to keep getting frustrated.
These kinds of men are solely looking to sleep with you and show you off in public, but not much else as far as a committed relationship is concerned.
