Everyone is naturally wired to go at a pace they are accustomed to during courtship.
As far as he is concerned, he has learned enough about you to want to date you.
As long as he has already taken you out on several dates and engaged in several conversations with you, he is aware that you already check a lot of the boxes he wants in a potential mate.
It usually takes roughly 1-3 months for people who are actively courting each other to get into a full-fledged relationship.
But it is something else entirely when you feel attracted to this person.
Usually, when you are at a point where you feel attracted to someone else, you are emotionally invested in the person to a degree.
This is worrisome, given that you are already in a committed relationship with another man and speaks to the likelihood you are no longer as emotionally invested in said man as you once were.
There have been several moments when you have engaged in conversations with your guy friend that lasted hours.
He often flirts in these conversations too.
Not to mention, he has instigated a hangout with you on several occasions where he has gotten a bit too touchy-feely with you as well as paid for the food and drinks.
All of these occasions have confused you as to what to make of it.
