Guys find a personality that is kind as most attractive in a girl they want to date.

Being kind connotes several factors.

She smiles at him, and is open to him approaching her.

She listens to him and diligently takes part in conversation with him.

Knowing how difficult it is for a guy to approach a girl, she does everything in her power to let him feel comfortable, as long as he isn’t being rude towards her.

For the guys she isn’t physically attracted to, she is as kind.

She doesn’t insult or humiliate him when he approaches.

She kindly lets him know that she isn’t interested and hopes that he is mature enough to take it respectfully and be on his way.

A kind girl provides an atmosphere that encourages a guy to be himself with her.

He isn’t as fearful of judgment with her.

It’s effortless for him to have a conversation with her and open up.

This is a substantial plus for guys.

Guys are frequently worried about how they come across to a girl upon approaching her, and this compels them to make a poor decision in misrepresenting who they are as a person.

He brings in a bunch of bravado and hubris when he approaches the girl, making up for whatever shortcomings in personality he thinks he has.

He believes that he has to be larger than life to make a standout girl give him the time of day.

When you give off the impression that a guy has to be completely on his game to approach you, you run a risk of compelling him to approach you and misrepresent his behavior.

This works against you.

If he is particularly good with words, he convinces you that he is someone he isn’t.

You fall for what he has to say, and weeks later, you are heartbroken when you realize that he was misrepresenting his true personality the whole time.

Regardless of the type of guy you are attracted to, whether he is the confident or shy type, you have a much better probability that he doesn’t misrepresent himself when he approaches you by having a kind demeanor.

A kind demeanor is less intimidating, and this encourages a guy to approach you as himself, not as someone he thinks you would be impressed by.

A guy that senses that you are a kind girl is not only himself when he approaches you and initiates conversation, he is curious about who you are as a person.

This is a guy that sees you as girlfriend material.

Guys put girls in different categories.

Girls that are one night stand or casual relationship material, and those that are girlfriend material.

A girl that is one night stand or casual relationship material gives off specific personality cues.

There is a recklessness to her behavior in how much alcohol she consumes, and a sustained desire to be the center of attention by talking crudely, loudly, and laughing hysterically, as she obsessively positions herself near where the men are in the room.

A kind girl has class.

She doesn’t have to do all of these shenanigans to get male attention.

Her kind and ladylike demeanor, as she quietly converses with her friends, gives a guy the immediate impression that she is girlfriend material.

That means he approaches you with a completely different objective.