When looking for a serious relationship, giving it at least three dates over three or more weeks before hanging out alone with him is sufficient.

A guy who chooses to take you out on three consecutive dates while consistently communicating with you in-between said dates is demonstrating serious intent.

He is taking the time to plan these dates out and is paying for them.

In-between these dates he is initiating conversations with you through text messages and phone calls, asking relevant questions that pertain to your life, interests, goals, and background.

This is a guy who has the highest likelihood of matching your motivations.

Since you are in search of a serious relationship, a guy who has demonstrated this kind of patience and attentiveness is a green flag.

Not only is he showing that he is sincere with his intentions, but he is also giving you more time to get a better gauge for his character and lifestyle.

During this time, you will likely glean more personal information about him.

Information such as where he grew up, where he went to school, what he does for work, who he hangs out with, and the family he comes from.

You have now had several weeks to not only gauge his behavior and relationships in real life but also his behavior on social media.

What he posts on social media and those who react to said posts are a huge indicator of who you are dealing with.

Positive posts that garner the reactions of positive followers are a huge indicator that he has a healthy mental disposition and lifestyle.

Thanks to what you have observed of him in real life and online, you are now able to correlate whether there is a similarity.

This is how you determine that he hasn’t been merely pretending to you all this time.

A life and persona in the real world that correlates with what you have seen of him online is indicative of an authentic person.

With this confirmation, you have a powerful idea of who you are dealing with.

By the third date, you have had the opportunity of gleaning all of this information.

It is commonplace for a man to want to hang out with you alone by this point in his courtship of you.

If he invites you over to his place for dinner or to watch a movie, be aware that although he doesn’t intend to physically harm you, he will have an expectation.

An expectation to sleep with you.

Men are sexual beings, even those who are genuinely interested in getting to know you as a person and ultimately committing to you.

So long as you are ready to sleep with him, he will be a willing participant.

Nevertheless, if you aren’t comfortable or ready to sleep with him quite yet, you are under no obligation to do so.

Instead, be transparent with him by letting him know that you would love to hang out with him but you don’t intend to sleep with him.

By setting expectations with such forthrightness, you give him the opportunity to either carry on with the hangout or cancel it.

Since he has already taken you out on multiple dates and built a rapport with you through conversation over several weeks, it’s highly unlikely he cancels.

Upon arriving to hang out with him, there is no pressure.

The boundaries have already been set, and you can both enjoy a fun evening together.