The reason why you want to reach out to him on his birthday is based on your desire that he come around.

Ever since he kindly rejected you over text, you have felt a loss.

You still like him.

The early conversations and dates you had with him were really compelling, leaving you feeling a strong romantic connection with him.

That is why you were surprised when he sent you a kind text rejecting you.

He had been a gentleman throughout, being the one who initiated the conversations and paid for the dates.

You really thought that more was to come with him.

Yet, he sent you a kind text rejecting you, and since then you have been quite bummed.

No other guy has grabbed your interest since.

Regardless of all the guys who have shown an interest in you since his rejection, you haven’t been interested in any of them all that much.

This guy, on the other hand, has stayed on your mind even more intensely since he sent you the text rejecting you.

It is this continuous focus on him that has led you to where you are now, with you thinking about reaching out on his birthday.

The true motive behind what you want to do has nothing to do with his birthday per se.

It mostly has to do with a desperation on your end to reconnect with him in the hopes that he has changed his mind about you.

By reaching out on his birthday, it gives you cover.

It makes it look as though you are just being kind and considerate in wishing him a happy birthday.

However, your true motivations have nothing to do with this.

You have been unable to move on from him emotionally and believe that reaching out to him on his birthday will give you an excuse to talk to him again.

You want to hear his voice or see a text message from him again.

The truth is, if he hasn’t reached out to you by now with a change of heart, his mind hasn’t changed about you.

He doesn’t see you as a romantic prospect.

He discovered this while he was talking to you in the early stages, and that was enough.

Even though this wasn’t necessarily how he wanted things to turn out, he couldn’t deny the fact that the romantic compatibility wasn’t there.

It was for you, but it wasn’t for him.

The text message he sent to you was based on what he felt was his raw assessment of the lack of romantic compatibility he felt with you.

It wasn’t sent on a whim.

Given that you haven’t heard from him since he sent the text message rejecting you, he hasn’t had a change of heart.

He still doesn’t see you as a romantic prospect.

If you were to reach out to him on his birthday, it wouldn’t change this assessment.

All it does is come off as odd, given that he doesn’t have that kind of relationship with you that would warrant a happy birthday message from you.

Sadly, reaching out to him on his birthday would do the opposite of what you desire.

It would only make him think you are desperate for his attention.

Desperation from a girl is a turn-off to guys.