As long as you are open to love, aren’t desperate for it and build a social circle of quality friends, your chances of finding love eventually are very strong.

When you are open to love, you aren’t emotionally closed off.

There isn’t past trauma that is making you incapable of opening yourself up to someone out of fear that you will make yourself vulnerable and get hurt.

Rather, you are open to what comes and not fighting against it.

At the same time, you aren’t desperate.

You don’t go about living your life constantly in search and in want of love.

This is where you aren’t turning good men off when they ask you out and take you out on dates because you are too quick to tell them about how much you like them.

Moreover, you aren’t constantly getting ahead of men who show an interest in you at work, the gym, or a conference by saying things to them that sound like you are already ready for marriage.

There is no desperation in how you move and live your life.

Rather, you build a strong social circle of good people.

People like you who have virtue, morals, compassion, and consideration.

In time, someone in this positive social circle will show a romantic interest in you and you in them.

Since you are open to love and not desperate, this newly found romantic interest will lead to dates.

A period of proper courtship happens where there are regular dates and substantive conversations being had in between dates.

This is where you find love.

The right kind of love.

The one that lasts and uplifts.

Everyone who is open to love, not desperate, and maintains a positive attitude is bound to eventually find love amid a quality social circle that they have painstakingly built.

If this isn’t you, you can still find love, but it won’t be the real love that lasts and uplifts.

When you are emotionally closed-off, you aren’t open to love.

Without figuring out what is causing the emotional block, you would be incapable of finding love.

Being desperate isn’t much better either.

It chases away the good guys who get worried that you are too quick in getting emotionally invested in them and attracts the bad men who realize they can take advantage of your desperation.

When you attract the man who is looking to take advantage of your desperation, you won’t know it upfront.

He pretends to love you back.

However, he proceeds to use you for money, chores, an ego boost, etc.

Once he has had his fill, he discards you like toilet paper, and you are left heartbroken.

The person who finds love and the right kind of love has positive qualities and builds a circle of friends who are likewise.

On the contrary, if you are a negative person with a traumatic upbringing who has a social circle of people who are likewise, you will most likely struggle to find love that is actually real.

In this scenario, you aren’t kind, warm, giving, and considerate.

This is also who you attract in kind.

Oftentimes, relationships happen quickly between two people like this.

There isn’t much time spent in proper courtship that persists for months.

Instead, you are already physically intimate with this person very quickly with barely a date.

The love happens fast.

But it isn’t the right kind of love.

It is love borne of two toxic individuals.

After a short honeymoon phase, this love quickly fades and is replaced with anger, yelling, and sometimes, physical violence.

Just like that, what you thought was love has turned to pure evil as you two outdo each other with vitriol and cruelty towards each other.

Wanting to get back at him and make him jealous, you quickly move on to dating someone new and force yourself to believe that it will be different this time.

But the same cycle repeats itself.

In short, you can find love eventually as long as certain caveats are met.

Without this, you either won’t find love or the love you find won’t be authentic.