Someone’s family is a major part of who they are and usually a permanent fixture.

Regardless of how amazing he is, his family remains an extension of him.

Their influence is present, whether it be in the forefront or background.

Even though he tells you that his family are kind of toxic but lovable, keep in mind that this comes from a partial place.

Since he loves his family, he has a natural inclination to make them appear to be better than what they actually are.

Furthermore, he likes you and is considering you as a potential partner, which would compel him to temper just how toxic his family is.

By tempering just how toxic they are whenever he describes them to you, he makes it seem as though their toxicity is nothing to be worried about.

What you have heard from him is the tamer version of just how toxic his family is.

Needless to say, walking away from him is a better move than pursuing a potential relationship with him.

I know this outcome isn’t pleasant.

You had finally met someone who made you feel a strong connection.

The conversations with him have been amazing.

He is witty, charming, and flirts with aplomb.

The life goals you share are similar.

The communication has been consistent and easy.

He has been such a breath of fresh air.

Before him, you were meeting a lot of duds.

Guys who looked good on paper but barely had chemistry with you in person.

This is a guy who finally got you over that hump.

Only to have him come from a toxic family.

It all feels so unfair.

That said, do not allow this to influence you into thinking that somehow you can make this work.

As amazing as he is, his family is still toxic.

No matter how well you get along with him, his family is certain to be an influence.

There is no way around this.

When you establish a long-term relationship with someone, it isn’t only that person you are in a relationship with.

By extension, you are also in a relationship with the person’s family.

A family that is toxic is bound to bring negativity into the relationship you have with him.

Any family function you attend means you are certain to be around toxic members of his family.

Even if they somehow manage to be nice to you.

As they get used to you, it is only a matter of time before the fake exterior disappears, their true colors show up, and they are no longer as nice.

Think about how your own family will be negatively affected by his family.

Your family is likely to also be at these family functions.

Imagine one of his toxic uncles being rude to your father, mother, sister, brother, niece, nephew, etc.

These are people you love and care about who are now being negatively affected by the toxic family of the amazing guy you are dating.

Thus, you won’t be the only one negatively affected by his family; your own family will be too.