Guys aren’t used to girls making the first move on them.
A girl who chooses to do this is out of the ordinary and would take a guy by surprise.
A surprise that is pleasant, given that he isn’t used to this kind of boldness and bravery from girls.
Plenty of girls think that making the first move on a guy is too aggressive and desperate, but this is a misguided notion.
What is too aggressive and desperate is if the girl can’t take a hint that the guy isn’t interested and keeps getting in the guy’s face in a hopeless attempt to get him to like her.
The idea of making the first move is about opening an introduction and seeing whether the guy is interested enough to take over the interaction.
This means that all you are doing in making the first move is showing an interest.
It is in a guy’s nature to take over the interaction and lead once he determines he is attracted to her.
This is why you shouldn’t misconstrue making the first move on a guy as you being too aggressive or desperate.
A first move doesn’t mean that you are a woman who is desperate to find a man to marry and impregnate her.
All you are doing is opening an introduction with a man who otherwise wouldn’t have known that you were interested in him.
A simple hello with sustained eye contact and a pleasant smile is often enough for a man to realize that the woman is showing interest.
This means that most women don’t have to be at all aggressive in how they make a first move.
You don’t have to get in his face and throw a bunch of compliments at him.
A classy first move is as simple as saying hello with sustained eye contact and a pleasant smile.
Most men aren’t used to even this from a woman.
Therefore, he knows this is different and picks up on it after the initial surprise of such a move.
When he realizes that this isn’t some kind of fluke, he recalibrates and wants to sustain the moment.
Guys are naturally wired to initiate and lead conversation, especially when they are interacting with the opposite sex.
Once he realizes that your approach was deliberate as you continue to maintain eye contact and a pleasant smile, his natural instinct is to come up with a topic of conversation and sustain it.
Remember, men aren’t used to women making a first move on them.
Once he gets over the initial surprise of it and realizes that you are genuinely attempting to engage with him, he is prone to taking the lead in the interaction.
If he is still struggling to come up with something to say after your greeting, don’t panic.
The greeting has had a profound impact on him, and his brain is processing like a computer.
Moments later, he is bound to find you and initiate conversation with a topic he has come up with.
All of this is to say, making the first move on a guy can be so simple and effortless.
A simple hello with sustained eye contact and a pleasant smile is often enough for a man who finds you attractive to come up with a topic of conversation, whether it be in that moment or moments later.