A first message done right can make all the difference on dating apps.

Guys are particularly taken by women who connect with them on their passions.

When you pay close attention to a guy’s dating profile, it doesn’t take long for you to figure out what he is passionate about.

His bio and photos are the key.

A bio filled with words about a particular activity is how you know what he is passionate about.

In the same vein, a guy with several photos in his profile that is focused on a particular activity is how you know what he is passionate about.

When you pay close attention to what he is showing a passion for in his profile, it gives you the best blueprint for how to go about sending a first message.

To stick out from all the other women who are sending him boring generic messages, such as “Hi,” focus on sending him a first message in reference to what he is passionate about.

For example, you observe in his bio a passion for running; thanks to how elaborate and in-depth he is about this topic, this is your clue for how to open a first message to him.

Use the same strategy if you choose to use his photos instead.

Whatever activity you see him involved in with the greatest frequency in his photos is what he has a strong passion for.

Use it as a subject for your first message.

Even if you aren’t passionate about running, sending a first message about running instantly captures his attention.

It’s a pastime or hobby that he adores, which means that your first message will instantly stick out the moment he sees it has something to do with running.

A good first message is one that is in the form of an open-ended question.

When you use an open-ended question as your first message, you already give him something to address, making it so much easier for him to respond.

A question is a conversation-opener.

Avoid the blunder so many women make in using a statement as a first message rather than a question.

A statement isn’t that much of a conversation opener.

Another strategy to use in how to go about sending an effective first message is to use humor.

Laughter triggers the release of feel-good hormones such as endorphins, dopamine, serotonin, and oxytocin.

These result in reduced stress and an elevated mood.

When he is already laughing or chuckling upon reading your first message, you are almost guaranteed a response from him.

Guys really appreciate humor, especially when it is coming from a woman.

Again, you are better off using information in his profile that he repeatedly demonstrated a passion for.

Let’s use the example of running again.

In this instance, you are using humor instead of a technical open-ended question.

This is where you crack a joke or tease him in a friendly way.

A safe joke that doesn’t offend is best done when you are self-deprecating in tandem.