At this point in the courtship process, you want to test him by offering to split the bill and pay for your own meal the next time you go out on a date with him, even though you don’t sincerely care to.

This is how you believe you can determine whether he is a genuinely traditional gentleman.

So far, he has paid for all the previous dates.

This is quite chivalrous of him, especially in modern-day society.

Be aware that this is also a man who has grown up in modern-day society just as you have.

He was raised by his parents and community to respect women.

Should you offer to split the bill, you are running the risk of him accepting your offer out of respect for you.

At which point, you erroneously look at his acceptance as a sign that he isn’t for real.

This is a dangerous trap you are setting for yourself, as you could end up dumping an authentically traditional gentleman by doing a test like this.

He has already paid for all the previous dates, which is usually a significant step in determining he is a gentleman.

If you are worried that it has been all for show, think about how he has behaved during and after every date.

Has he been polite and respectful?

Has there ever been a point he insinuated that he wanted to come home with you?

Has he continued to communicate with you in between dates, remembering details of what you have told him and asking follow-up questions in future conversations?

These are all strong signs he is excited about courting you and genuinely wants to do so patiently.

A real gentleman with traditional bona fides courts a girl with all the right intentions.

He isn’t in a hurry to get into bed with her.

The courtship process to him is sacred, and he uses it to find connection and determine compatibility.

Since he was raised in modern-day society, he was taught to respect women.

As a result, there is a good chance he would be worried about turning down a woman’s offer to split the bill and pay for her own meal, even though he would prefer to pay for the whole date as he had already been doing.

This is why you would be playing a dangerous game if you were to offer to split the bill and pay for your own meal as a test to see whether he is an authentically traditional gentleman.

You could end up dumping a guy with traditional bona fides based on him agreeing to your offer when all he was doing was being respectful of you.

In the modern-day world we live in, traditional men are becoming a dying breed.

These men take pleasure in the traditional courtship process but often find themselves at odds with the double message that society seems to permeate.

On the one hand, he is raised to court women like a traditional gentleman and foot the bill, but on the other hand, he is told that women are independent and don’t need a man’s charity.

As long as you let him lead, he is comfortable courting you as a naturally traditional gentleman would and foots the bill.

By testing him by making an offer to split the bill and pay for your own meal, you introduce a wrinkle in the courtship process that is totally unnecessary.