There were text message exchanges you didn’t like seeing when you went through his phone.

These were between him and other girls, lots of other girls.

You didn’t know that he was simultaneously talking to this many girls alongside talking to you.

In hindsight, you were naïve enough to believe that you were the only girl he was talking to and courting.

Now you know that isn’t the case, and you don’t know what to do.

On the one hand, you want to stop talking to him and move on to better things and, hopefully, better men.

Nevertheless, on the other hand, you are angry and feel the need to show him that you are better than all those girls you saw chatting with him through his phone.

It’s natural to develop a sense of competition when you see all these other girls on his phone who are clearly showing an interest in him.

He is yet to be your boyfriend, and to an extent, he hasn’t done anything technically wrong in seeing or talking to other girls besides you.

Yet, you can’t help but feel misled by him, as he did give you the impression that you were the only girl he was talking to and courting.

It’s no wonder what you discovered as you went through his phone has triggered a bunch of chaotic emotions in you.

What’s that much more insane about all of this is how obsessed you have become with him since you discovered what you saw on his phone.

You are incessantly looking at his posts on social media, talking to mutual friends about him, looking to find his ex-girlfriends so as to glean information from them about him, etc.

This is usually what happens when a girl sees a guy as a prize she wants.

Yes, the reality is that now you have seen all the girls he is talking to in conjunction with you, your natural inclination will be to want to win him over.

So, any initial thoughts you had about dropping him were merely motivated by the moment you saw all those girls on his phone who are chatting with him.

Since then, you have barely thought about dropping him.

Instead, you have become obsessed.

You are talking to everyone you trust about what all of this means.

This is how it begins.

The more you think about him and involve other people in your attempt to understand how serious he is about you, the more emotionally invested you become in him.

This is the path you are on, and it will only get more intense the longer you continue with this behavior.

Although you won’t want to admit this, ever since you went through his phone and saw all the other girls he has been talking to, he has become a prize in your mind.

You are now subconsciously on a journey to win him over all those other girls.

If you weren’t, you wouldn’t have cared about pursuing this any further.

The moment you went through his phone and saw that he has been talking to a multitude of other girls, you would have immediately blocked him on all of your platforms and never talked to him again.

That is not the case.

You continue to seek answers about him, which means you have become that much more interested in him.

What you discovered on his phone is confirmation that he is a player.

A player doesn’t commit.

He gets off on all the attention he gets from his female admirers who are vying for his time.

This wouldn’t change if you were to keep him in your life.

A massive mistake that a lot of girls make is in thinking that they are different and that a player will give up his womanizing ways for them.

This is completely unrealistic, as so many girls who choose to keep such a guy in their lives usually end up heartbroken and emotionally distraught.

This guy is trouble.

What you should do is follow your initial instinct by blocking him on every platform and no longer talking to him.

That said, the tingle and thirst to win him over all those other girls may be a temptation too enticing for you to give up.