After the first date, you were brimming with excitement.

There was an expectation he would message you and ask you out on a second date in short order.

Even though the date went well, your phone is yet to send you that notification of a text message from him asking you on a second date.

The silence has resulted in anxiety.

You have replayed the first date in your mind repeatedly.

Every moment that transpired during the date has been paused in your mind and analyzed.

From the moment he hugged you at the beginning of the date to when he hugged you at the end of it.

Yes, you were both nervous at the start and even admitted as much to each other.

However, as the date progressed, the nerves calmed down.

The smiles and giggling were no longer from nerves but from genuine enjoyment of lively conversation.

By the time the date ended, there was an obvious perception that you had both gotten along and had a great time.

After all, the date itself lasted several hours.

When he hugged you at the end of the date, you were filled with hope and anticipation that a second date was imminent.

It’s been several days since, and you are yet to hear from him.

Did he already lose interest?

No.

There are men who consciously avoid messaging you after a date for a few days so as not to appear to be too eager.

These are men who don’t want to turn a girl off by making her think that he has no life of his own and only gets out when he is on a date with a girl.

There are men who take as much as a week or more to ask a girl for a second date.

It doesn’t do you any good to keep anticipating a text message.

Doing this only makes you anxious with each day that passes without hearing from him.

This anxiety can compel you to act out in the future in a way you shouldn’t.

For example, after not having heard from him for several days and allowing yourself to become overwhelmed with anxiety, you initiate a text message to him.

One that sounds desperate, asking him about where he has been or whether he wants to go out again.

This is where so many women in your position go about this so wrong.

By initiating a desperate text message to him, you suddenly make yourself less desirable to him.

It gives him the impression that you are desperately waiting on him to ask you out on a second date.

This cheapens your value in his eyes, lessening any desire in him to want to pursue you.

Rather, what you should be doing is living your life to the fullest.

This is where you are going out on fun nights out on the town with friends, taking fun exercise classes at the local gym, taking deliberate steps towards working to achieve your life goals, etc.

All of this keeps you busy, preventing you from repeatedly thinking about this guy and why he hasn’t messaged you asking for a second date.

When you use this approach, the likelihood you hear from him again is tremendous.

This is because you have been giving out an energy of value and abundance.

Instead of waiting around on him, allowing anxiety to overwhelm you, you have been living your life to the fullest.

Your silence is not lost on him.

If anything, it’s loud.

That much louder when he sees the exciting photos you are posting on social media showing how much fun you are having in your life.

The urgency to reconnect with you sooner grows, and the next thing you know, he is contacting you again and asking you out on a second date.