After a year of dating, you should have met your boyfriend’s friends and family.
Meeting a boyfriend’s friends is often what should happen first.
This usually happens within 1 to 3 months of courtship.
Meeting his family comes second and usually occurs after the relationship has become exclusive.
Guys are initially attracted to a woman’s physical looks.
Everything else only becomes a consideration after he has determined that he finds a woman physically attractive.
When he looks at you, his first thought isn’t about whether you are a single parent.
His first thought is about determining whether you are physically attractive to him.
Someone’s family is a major part of who they are and usually a permanent fixture.
Regardless of how amazing he is, his family remains an extension of him.
Their influence is present, whether it be in the forefront or background.
Even though he tells you that his family are kind of toxic but lovable, keep in mind that this comes from a partial place.
There are men who don’t believe they are ready to become a father.
He is figuring out who he is and where he wants to go in life.
Choosing to date a single mother requires he take on the responsibility of being a surrogate father, which he isn’t prepared to do.
Knowing this, he avoids dating a single mother, believing he isn’t prepared to take on this kind of role.
Someone who has serious family issues and grew up in such a household is usually negatively affected by it.
Even though he hasn’t shown any negative behavior, it doesn’t mean the potential isn’t there.
The potential for such behavior could be dormant or is being deliberately hidden.
Since he spent his formative years growing up in such a toxic environment, it’s likely some of that negativity rubbed off on him.
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