In the early conversations, these men are motivated by how enjoyable you are to talk to.

You are very chill at this time, making conversation that is easygoing, fun, and flirtatious.

During this period, your behavior is carefree, which allows you to engage in these conversations without any obvious expectations.

Inevitably, this carefree behavior changes in time.

You become more emotionally invested in the guy, leading to you changing the nature of the conversations you have with him.

These conversations aren’t as carefree as they once were.

They become increasingly personal, and the topics get that much more serious.

He flirts with you like he has frequently done in past conversations, but you aren’t as receptive to it.

You respond to it but not as enthusiastically.

Even though you flirt back, it is brief, as you steer the conversation back to more serious topics.

Over time, this makes the conversations he has with you that much more tedious and no longer as fun.

Without realizing it, you have gone from someone carefree and fun to talk to to someone who is frequently stuck on wanting to engage in deeper conversations about serious topics.

This is a guy who was so into you at first and acted as such.

But now, you have gotten ahead of him emotionally, and despite his efforts to steer conversation back to fun, lighthearted topics, it hasn’t been working, and he is beginning to disengage mentally.

This inevitably leads to him just vanishing on you without explanation.

He has finally given up on trying to get you to revert back to how fun and carefree you once were in conversation.

Think about how soon you tend to become emotionally invested in a guy you are talking to.

If you have a tendency to become emotionally attached sooner than he does and you get ahead of him in how soon you steer conversation towards more serious topics, this is the reason why they have frequently just vanished on you without explanation.

For future reference, don’t get ahead of guys you talk to emotionally.

Don’t get ahead of him in how you conduct conversations with him.

A guy who is enjoying his conversations with you and is finding value in you usually transitions the conversation into more serious topics once this realization occurs.

This usually occurs within a month to two months of frequent conversations with you.

As long as you don’t get ahead of him emotionally during this period of time, you are less likely to keep running into situations where a guy just vanishes on you without explanation.

A guy who is genuinely looking for a serious relationship with a girl requires a period of time to know whether the girl he is talking to is the right candidate for said relationship.

When you are someone who is keen on finding a serious relationship with a guy, you are more susceptible to becoming too overzealous when you think you have met a man who is a good candidate for a committed relationship.

This is where you force conversations towards more serious topics before the man is ready to do it.

As long as you are aware of this, you won’t keep making this mistake.