There are already rumors abounding about him within his sphere of influence.
These rumors pervade from mutual friends and acquaintances, workmates, schoolmates, social media, etc.
When you pay attention to these spaces, you are capable of picking up on signs he’s a player, starting with what his reputation is.
Several girls from his past talk to people who are within his sphere of influence about their negative experiences with him.
This information spreads among mutual friends, acquaintances, etc.
A guy who leaves a trail of broken hearts within his sphere of influence has a reputation.
He’s a player.
Instead of getting caught up on his good looks, lifestyle, and charm, learn about his reputation first.
A player leaves a trail of heartbreak.
Follow the trail, and you are privy to information provided by other girls that speaks to whether he is a player or not.
Furthermore, a player doesn’t have a history of long-term relationships.
He has a history of situationships.
It should be an instant red flag to you when he doesn’t mention any long-term relationships whenever you are talking to each other.
Keep from making excuses for him.
This is something so many women do when they are smitten by a guy who is their type.
She convinces herself that it isn’t his fault that he doesn’t seem to have had a history of long-term relationships.
He simply hasn’t met the right girl.
These are convenient excuses.
A guy with social skills who chooses to date should have a solid history of long-term relationships.
A history of no long-term relationships means he has left a trail of situationships or casual relationships in his wake.
This is what a player does.
When he is supposedly courting a girl, there is a severe lack of properly planned dates.
Properly planned dates involve real activities.
Instead, he is adept at asking you to come over to his place to hang out.
If you fall for the trap and come over to his place, he wants physical intimacy.
A premature expectation of physical intimacy is a formidable sign of a player.
He doesn’t take the time to plan out proper dates or have the patience to wait for sex.
Soon after there is an introduction, conversations with him become sexual in nature.
Don’t fall into the trap of thinking that this is just how he goes about showing interest.
Early conversations that are already filled with sexual innuendos and explicit flirting aren’t appropriate.
Conversations in this vein are seductive in nature, compelling you to come over to his place far too prematurely.
Before you know it, you are faced with a dilemma.
Be physically intimate with him or deny him.
If you are physically intimate, it doesn’t lead to him taking you more seriously.
He just wants to keep being physically intimate.
Should you deny him, he doesn’t communicate with you as much as he once did and eventually ghosts you.
Either choice leads to an unfavorable outcome.
Best to never put yourself in this position to begin with.