The fact that you are confused as to whether he wants you or not is already a bad sign.

This means that his behavior hasn’t been consistent.

There are moments where he seems like he is interested and other moments where he seems disinterested.

He has insinuated about taking you out on dates but is yet to follow through.

He talks about interests you mutually share, yet goes off to do them with his friends or on his own without you.

The conversations are long and exhilarating.

Yet, they are followed up with inaction.

This is all too confusing.

Your thoughts are vacillating.

One moment you are certain he wants you and is about to ask you out on a date.

The next moment, you are wholly confused, not knowing whether he wants you or not.

A guy who doesn’t act, doesn’t want you.

It doesn’t matter how authentic he comes across in conversations, when there is no subsequent action.

Don’t read too much into how enthralling the conversations are, how rambunctious the flirting is, and how voluminous the shared interests are.

All of this creates a false perception of chemistry.

Perceived chemistry means nothing when he doesn’t follow it up with asking you out on a date.

There are guys who engage in great conversations with women, but have no intention of taking things any further.

He tricks you into believing that a date is imminent by insinuating or hinting at it.

Yet, the next time you talk to him, he doesn’t bring it up.

A guy that does this is intent on keeping you on an emotional hook.

He knows that by inferring that a date is imminent, he keeps you hopeful.

As long as you are hopeful that a date is on the horizon, you remain emotionally hooked.

Your thoughts are filled with images of what a date with him constitutes.

You allow yourself to become too prematurely excited over the fantastical images you are conjuring in your mind about this phantom date.

This alone makes you that much more emotionally invested in him.

You look forward to every new conversation with him, waiting on him to officially ask you out and set the plans.

Sadly, with each consequent call, this official ask and arrangement doesn’t occur.

When a guy wants a girl, he is unequivocal about it.

Being a guy, he is fully aware that a woman doesn’t stay available on the dating market for long.

To this end, there is a palpable sense of urgency when he deals with you.

Once he establishes that there is mutual romantic interest, he is quick to ask you out on a date so as to get the courtship underway.

The longer you go without him officially asking you out on a date and following through on it, the likelier you are dealing with a guy who merely enjoys the influence he has over your emotions.

He knows that you aren’t someone he ideally wants to court, but enjoys how much you hang on his every word and bolster his ego with your desperate compliments.

This isn’t a guy worth keeping in your life.