After a good first date, not all guys instantly jump at the opportunity to plan the next date.

This is a guy who is being tempered in how he goes about planning the next date.

As a result, it appears as though he is being slow in planning the next date, but to him, he is moving at a deliberate pace.

He wants to avoid being too much too soon.

None of this means that he is just not that into you.

As long as he is consistently communicating with you, asking substantial questions with thoughtful follow-ups, his interest in you remains strong.

This said, there is a limit to how slow a guy should be to plan the next date.

Even guys who are tempered in their approach to planning the next date don’t take forever to do it.

He usually plans out the next date within a couple of weeks.

If it hasn’t been two weeks, don’t panic.

Although you are used to men becoming really gong-ho about planning the next date after a good first date, not every man is like this.

This is where you should exercise patience and restraint in how quickly you expect the next date.

What you are used to is a guy being fast in planning the next date.

Meanwhile, his approach to courting a girl doesn’t necessarily match what you expect.

To him, he is moving at a steady pace that he is accustomed to moving at.

Whereas, to you, it feels interminable.

Be careful you don’t get too carried away with your excitement for this man based on how well your first date went.

As long as it hasn’t been more than 2 weeks since the first date and he has continued to be consistent in communicating with you with substance, there is nothing to be worried about.

What seems slow to you is normal to him.

It doesn’t mean he is just not that into you.

This is the pace he is most comfortable with, which also keeps him from appearing too eager.

A guy who is slow to plan the next date and just isn’t that into you isn’t hard to deduce.

Usually, he isn’t communicating consistently with you.

If you initiate a message to him, he takes hours or days to respond.

When he does talk to you, he isn’t asking substantive questions with insightful follow-ups.

He is more concerned about talking about himself and how his day or week went than about asking you about yours.

He doesn’t remember information you give him about yourself either.

You are constantly having to remind him about information you already gave him about yourself in a past conversation.

What finally leaves no doubt is the length of time it is taking for him to plan the next date.

More than two weeks have gone by.

Yet, you have gleaned that during that time he has been socially active by going out with friends or to events.

This means he has had the free time to take you out on the next date but has been choosing to do other activities without your involvement.