Growing up in a household where there was anger and toxic behavior often shown by someone older or in authority, such as a parent, has molded who you have become as a person.

Since you were surrounded by all of this anger and toxic behavior while growing up, you became accustomed to it.

Anger and toxic behavior are familiar to you.

As a result, as an adult, you unconsciously attract men who have the same anger issues and toxic behavior you witnessed from authority figures you grew up around.

Unbeknownst to you, you gravitate towards and make yourself receptive to men who have anger issues and toxic behavior because of its familiarity to you.

On the contrary, the men who don’t have anger issues or toxic behavior and, rather, are kind and respectful find it much harder to sustain your interest.

After a short while, you are no longer returning their phone calls and texts, or you are rejecting their offers to meet on dates.

This is because you aren’t used to kind and respectful behavior.

That is unfamiliar territory to you.

Rather, you are used to men who show you disrespect and meanness.

That is your comfort zone.

When you are engaging with men who have anger issues and toxic behavior, you know what to expect and how to respond to that.

You are in your element.

A kind and respectful man is an alien to you.

Besides, you don’t believe you are someone who deserves such kind and respectful treatment.

Since you grew up among older people who demonstrated anger and toxicity towards each other and you, you have an innate belief that you don’t deserve to be treated with kindness and respect.

This is another reason why you don’t make yourself inviting to kinder men.

All of the anger and toxic behavior you have been exposed to ever since you were a child has rubbed off on you too.

You have become what it is you grew up around.

Someone with a harsh and uninviting demeanor.

A kind man who sees you in public rarely catches you smiling, making eye contact, or laughing.

A kind man looks for friendly signals from a woman before taking a chance on approaching her so as to avoid harsh rejection.

Positive body language such as a smile convinces him that you are open to being approached and are less likely to harshly reject him.

A past filled with exposure to authority figures with anger issues and toxic behavior has hardened you within and without.

As a result, you always appear unfriendly and cold.

This body language attracts men who are like that.

The men who have anger issues and toxic behavior.

He sees your unfriendly disposition and is instantly attracted to the negative energy.

This compels him to approach you.

Energy attracts energy.

To stop attracting men with anger issues and toxic behavior, your energy has to change from one of coldness to one of kindness.

As long as you keep giving off unfriendly negative energy, you are certain to keep attracting men with the same energy who have anger issues and toxic behavior.