The internet is being used by a wide range of people for a variety of reasons, and love is one of them.
According to the Pew Research Center, roughly 30 percent of adults have used a dating site or app.
Among this number, about 42 percent have found committed and serious long-term relationships.
There was a time where using the internet to find a serious relationship was taboo.
Not anymore.
With these types of numbers, people have shown that they have gotten over that hump.
In this day and age, you would be hard-pressed to not know or be acquainted with someone who has used the internet to find a serious relationship.
Yes, that goes for some of your coworkers, as well as the barrista who served you your favorite coffee at the local coffeehouse this week.
Given these results, it’s no longer a question that you can find serious relationships on the internet.
The real question is whether you are capable of avoiding the pitfalls that women who join dating apps experience.
Plenty of women who sign up on internet dating sites have no issue receiving matches.
In fact, what you will find is that you will be overwhelmed with the sheer number of men who match with you on dating apps.
Getting matches isn’t the issue when it comes to finding a serious relationship on the internet.
The pitfalls occur when women who are at the receiving end of all this attention from men on dating apps develop an inflated perception of their value.
This negatively affects how they go about choosing their matches.
She becomes far more picky about who she wants to match with than she ever has in real life.
Everything from his height to his income is elevated in what she wants to find in a match.
Much more elevated than any expectations she had of a potential mate in her real life.
As a result, she only chooses to match with the best-looking and wealthiest men on the dating app.
Sadly, these men are fully aware they are fiercely sought after by the majority of women on dating apps.
He takes advantage of this by sleeping with as many of these women as possible, several of whom get stuck in casual relationships with him instead of the serious relationships they were seeking.
Some of these women stay in these casual relationships for years hoping the guy finally gets serious with them.
It doesn’t happen, and she ends up bitter and resentful, knowing full well she wasted her precious time.
Don’t be this person.
A good rule of thumb to keep you from developing a false perception of your own value as you are receiving all this attention from men on dating apps is to ask yourself about whether you receive that much attention in your everyday life from men.
If the answer is no, you shouldn’t allow all the attention you receive from men on dating apps to get to your head.
This understanding keeps you humble.
When you are using dating apps, steer clear of the men who are the most desired because they check off a bunch of boxes in height, wealth, social status, career, education, etc.
Instead, focus on the man who is closer to your level in these areas.
These men aren’t getting inundated with endless matches from women.
Thankfully, this means he isn’t sleeping with a bunch of women and lying to them about his false intentions about finding a serious relationship.
Rather, he wants to meet the right match who is just as ready for a serious relationship as he is.