Stop fixating so much on getting a girlfriend.

When your whole day is consumed with thoughts about how to get a girlfriend, you miss out on living a fun and interesting life.

Even in moments where you are doing fun activities, you won’t be fully invested in what you are doing, as you are constantly thinking about getting a girlfriend.

This prevents you from becoming better at doing these fun activities, which in of itself causes you to lose out on attracting girls to you.

Do you have a fun and active lifestyle?

What interests, hobbies, or pastimes do you indulge in?

Think about not only doing those fun activities, but doing them wholeheartedly.

Instead of just being one of the guys in your basketball, football, baseball, or soccer team, become the best player in it.

Likewise for the hiking, cycling, woodworking, martial arts, golf, fishing, hunting, hiking, biking, or weightlifting group that you are a part of.

Whatever activities you are often doing, become the best at it.

This means that you are totally immersed in what you are doing.

Rather than thinking about how to get a girlfriend as you are lifting weights with your friends, you are fully invested on lifting the weights and excelling at it.

When you go all out to be the best in the fun activities you participate in, you stand out from every one else.

Word gets around about you and your prowess.

In some of these instances, the guys you are with begin to look up to you as a leader or someone to be inspired by.

All of this attracts the attention of women.

Women love it when a guy is the best at the fun activities he does or is looked up to as a leader.

Without having to do anything but excel at the fun activities that you are already doing in your everyday life, you attract women to you.

These are women that are interested in getting to know you.

As long as you have good conversational skills, you keep her interest and she becomes that much more enamored by you.

Do you have conversational skills?

This is critical.

Even though you attract the attention of girls as you excel in the fun activities you do, you lose their interest when you are incapable of keeping a good conversation going.

Although this sounds daunting, it really isn’t.

It’s quite simple to maintain a girl’s interest when you are having a conversation with her.

All that is required is that you ask her questions, relate to what she says, crack jokes, and flirt.

As long as you follow this conversational pattern, you keep her intrigued and she stays interested.

This said, don’t engage in conversations with her into perpetuity.

A handful of good conversations is enough.

There is no getting a girlfriend without asking her out.

Without asking her out within a reasonable time frame, a woman loses interest in a guy.

Ask her out.

A woman knows that she is ready to be a guy’s girlfriend within 2 to 4 months of consistent courtship.