These two guys clearly have qualities that you want in a potential partner.

This is why you are in a position where you have been dating the two of them.

What complicates this is in how your physical and emotional energy is being divided between them.

Since you are dating these two guys, your attention is divided.

When you have been dating these two guys for longer than you should have, at least one of these guys starts to get a read on your behavior.

He realizes that he seems to be giving more than what he is getting back from you.

At first, he was okay with it because he was caught up on wooing you, hoping to impress.

Nevertheless, some time has passed, and he is becoming more clearheaded.

Since your time and attention are divided, you aren’t as available for dates or conversations as he is.

You aren’t as physically available because you are spending some of that time on dates with the other guy.

Likewise, you aren’t as emotionally present because you are having to divide your emotional energy between both guys.

Additionally, you have lost track of some important information he has shared with you.

This is where he is talking to you about a topic he has talked to you about in the past, and you are vague in how you respond because you have forgotten the details of said topic.

This isn’t lost on him.

He can tell that you have forgotten about some of the details of this topic, and he is not happy about it.

It was a topic that mattered to him, in which he was open and transparent with you, and you have already forgotten certain details about it.

To make matters worse, you confuse information you learned from the other guy with information you learned from this guy.

This is where you are calling some of his friends and family members by the wrong names or you are describing past events he supposedly told you about incorrectly.

You see, the longer you date these two guys simultaneously, the greater the likelihood you begin to lose track of information they give you or confuse information you learn from one of them with that of the other.

If one of these guys is experiencing all of this with you, you have been dating both guys for longer than you should have.

You should have cut off one of them a while ago.

The right time to cut off one of these guys is when you come to terms with the qualities you are willing to live without.

Figure out which guy gives you the most of what you want and be willing to let go or live without what is missing.

The other guy has the remaining qualities that are missing, but you can’t have it all.

When you permit greed to govern your behavior, you end up dating these two guys simultaneously for longer than you should.

With this approach, it’s inevitable they come to realize what you are doing, and this puts you at risk of losing both of them.