There is a reason why you are at a juncture where your boyfriend’s extreme hygiene issues are now at the forefront of your thoughts and everyday experience.

In the early days of your relationship with him, you were fine with overlooking some of his poor hygiene.

You excused the fact that he could go for weeks without shaving or would wear some clothes for too long of a time, as he was too lazy to do his brimming laundry.

At first, discovering these early hygiene issues didn’t trigger any loud alarms about his hygiene in your mind.

After all, it’s not like you are the cleanest person in the world.

You thought it endearing to help him shave his beard or do his laundry for him.

Plus, he did make a meager and misleading effort to keep his place and himself not as dirty as you would later discover once you developed feelings for him and became his girlfriend.

Inevitably, as time went by, you observed extreme hygiene issues from your boyfriend that you could no longer brush off as minor.

His house is literally a pigsty filled with overflowing dirty dishes in the kitchen sink, overflowing garbage that doesn’t get taken out on time, a bathroom sink filled with hair and hardened toothpaste spills, a bedroom with a disgustingly stained mattress and dirty sheets that are rarely changed, pet hair, vomit, and feces in multiple areas.

All of this poor hygiene causes awful smells the moment you walk into his home.

His personal hygiene isn’t any better, as he can go for weeks without bathing himself properly or brushing his teeth, which often leads to an unbearable odor wafting from him, making any physical affection or intimacy with him a nightmare.

All of this said, you would have left him a while ago if you didn’t love him so much.

Yet, you struggle with how to go about dealing with his extreme hygiene issues.

You aren’t overreacting to your boyfriend’s extreme hygiene issues in the slightest.

It took a while for you to finally acknowledge that he has a massive hygiene problem.

When it was still early in your relationship with him, you were blinded by the powerful romantic emotions you felt for him.

You were so giddy with these feel-good emotions, you brushed off the early signs of his poor hygiene as minor.

If anything, you felt good about helping with cleaning the house.

However, since becoming his girlfriend, it has become next to impossible to keep up with his poor hygiene and clean up after him.

It is too much.

Whenever you think you have finally gotten his home in better shape with cleanliness, the place is back to being a pigsty the next time you return to his place.

At this point, you have already talked to him about his extreme hygiene issues, and he keeps telling you that he will be better.

For a day or two, he does a little cleaning up, but that never lasts.

He is back to his unhygienic ways not long after.

The sad state of affairs is that this is who your boyfriend is.

He was unhygienic before he met you.

It is a significant part of who he is.

Anyone he dated in the past tolerated his poor hygiene, which further reinforced this behavior.

Since his extreme hygiene issues are already bothering you as his girlfriend, be aware that none of this is going to get any better.

Any complaints you make to him about his extreme hygiene issues will be met with a weak acknowledgment that he will change, followed by a few days of him making an effort to keep his place and himself clean, which is inevitably followed up with him going back to his dirty habits.

If you want to stay with him, you have to draw a line in the sand.

You won’t visit him unless his place is clean.

And he won’t be able to visit you unless his personal hygiene is on point.

Although the thought of losing him to these new rules is scary, it’s better you lose him now than to lose several years of your precious life having to deal with his extreme hygiene issues only to end up breaking up anyway.