Having spent a lifetime thinking about the moment you meet your soulmate, you are susceptible to becoming far too influenced by it.

There has been such a buildup and anticipation over the years for what that moment would feel like; you actually rarely look past it beyond a cliched happily-ever-after you have seen in romance movies and novels.

Finally, you meet this guy and feel butterflies you have never felt before with any man you have dated in the past.

That moment is so impactful, you can’t stop thinking about him afterward.

He is someone you work with at your workplace, see at the gym, see in class, are next-door neighbors with, etc.

Whenever you see each other, there is such tension that it hits you like nothing you have felt before.

As you go to bed at night, you relive the moment.

This is where you convince yourself that you have finally actually found your soulmate.

After all these years, you have been so ready for it.

Sadly, someone as passionate as you have been to finally meet that soulmate is not going to think too far past the butterflies in regard to what this guy is about.

You aren’t considering his temperament, dating history, family background, political and religious views, etc.

Basically, you are too caught up in the butterflies you feel whenever you see him; you are incapable of thinking about all the other aspects of his character and life that would give you a better understanding of whether he would be a valued partner.

This is a huge drawback that plagues those who are so intent on meeting their soulmate.

In the event she comes across a guy who triggers the emotions she has never felt before, she immediately concludes that he must be the soulmate she has been waiting for.

Every moment she sees him, she goes through an emotional earthquake.

An emotional earthquake so riveting, she is in somewhat of a daze long after the moment occurs.

Since you are completely locked into what you are feeling, you don’t realize that the euphoria you feel is totally based on all the years of buildup.

This misleads you into thinking that you have finally found your soulmate.

But, alas, you haven’t.

You aren’t considering everything else about him as a person.

All you are stuck on is the euphoric feeling he triggers in you.

Before you know it, you have gotten into a relationship with him that turns sour not too long after the honeymoon phase runs out.

He is abusive and neglectful.

Unfortunately, if you had taken the time to vet him before rushing into a relationship with him, believing he was your soulmate, you would know that he was a toxic boyfriend to his previous girlfriends.

You never bothered to look into who this guy really was because you were too caught up on the butterflies.

A true soulmate isn’t someone who gives you transcendent butterflies.

Unlike what you have been anticipating, a soulmate isn’t someone you necessarily feel emotional fireworks with upon meeting.

In reality, knowing you have actually found your soulmate is a slow and deliberate process.

It requires years of this person being by your side, supporting you through the best and worst of times.

He isn’t a perfect human being, but he has enough humility and accountability to keep working on bettering himself each and every day.

In you, he sees someone who has strengths and weaknesses.

He accepts you for who you are and is excited to go on a journey of discovery with you.

Thanks to this journey, each and every year that passes is better than the last, and there is no one else on earth he would rather be with for the remainder of his life but you.

That is your soulmate.