Questioning whether you should tell him speaks to how much this is weighing on your conscience.

You feel guilty about cheating on him.

In a way, you want to get it off your chest.

That is why you are pondering whether you should tell him.

It’s better to do it.

Telling him gets it off your chest.

In staying quiet about it, it will eat at you to such a point that the relationship suffers.

You will struggle with physical intimacy with him, as every time he is touching you and wanting to be intimate, you are reminded of the cheating that occurred in the past that he doesn’t know about.

All of a sudden, you are giving him excuses for why you don’t want to have sex with him in these moments.

You tell him that you are tired, under the weather, feeling unsexy at the moment, on your period, etc.

You will say whatever you have to to avoid physical intimacy with him, as the act reminds you of the moment you cheated on him.

For men, an inability to be intimate with their partner is akin to rejection.

Men bond through physical intimacy.

It is how a woman demonstrates her love and affection for him.

When physical intimacy suffers or is completely missing, he feels totally undesirable and unloved by his partner.

This dejection crosses over into other areas of the relationship.

With little to no physical intimacy, he is reluctant to be in your physical space for any extended period of time.

Instead of hanging out with you as he normally does, he goes to a different room to play video games or talk to friends on the phone so as to distract himself.

Basically, he is staying away from you so that he doesn’t keep getting disappointed.

He knows that in staying in the same room as you for any extended period of time, he will be tempted to get physically close to you so as to touch and kiss you.

Even though you entertain it initially, he is fearful and aware that it won’t be long before you are giving him another excuse as to why you are incapable of being intimate with him.

This would inevitably disappoint him, killing the mood, and befuddling him as to why you keep giving him excuses to avoid sleeping with him.

The rift between you that results from this lack of physical intimacy pushes you two further apart from each other.

Before you know it, someone is cheating, and it’s not you this time.

His craving for physical intimacy has led him into the arms of a different woman.

Ergo, by not telling him that you cheated on him in the past, this leads to a chain of events that forces him to cheat on you.

Telling him you cheated on him steers clear of this bleak alternate future in your relationship with him.

The good news is that cheating is rarely a direct cause of a breakup in a relationship.

The lion’s share of men who love their significant others usually stay with a partner who cheated, as long as they are assured that the affair is over and there are no lingering feelings.