When you are in love, every waking moment during your day is consumed with thoughts of her.

You are wondering about what she is doing, where she is, who she is with, whether she is thinking of you, etc.

You think about her so much it almost feels as though she has taken over your whole consciousness with a fierce and unrelenting grip.

Since you have never felt anything like this, you know that this is totally unusual from what you are used to.

There is a constant itch to send her a text message, call, do a video chat, etc.

It’s as though you are fearful that every minute you spend without some kind of interaction with her, is a sign that you are losing her to someone else.

This potent fear causes a degree of jealousy in you when you so happen to see her post a picture of herself looking really happy and smiling radiantly on social media, and you aren’t anywhere in the picture.

It is made worse when you see who is around her, especially when some of those people happen to be male.

Although she isn’t romantically involved with any of these men, you can’t help but feel jealousy.

This goes for when you see her in person too.

Should she so happen to be with a male friend, or receiving male attention, a pit of fire develops in your stomach, giving you the biggest ulcer you have ever had.

You want her moments of happiness to be inspired or influenced by you.

As in, you want to be the only one that makes her smile so radiantly.

Selfishly, you want to be her source of happiness.

You know that you are in love when you put this amount of responsibility on your shoulders.

That of wanting to be the source of her happiness.

You don’t want anyone else to make her as happy as you want to make her.

This speaks to the jealousy you feel whenever you see anyone else making her happy, but it also speaks to something else.

The fear of losing her.

A powerful fear that you are losing her should she so happen to be made happier by someone else.

The fear of losing her is all-consuming, and it crosses over into how you behave around her too.

You never want to say or do anything that angers her or makes her uneasy.

Whenever you are socializing with her, you are at your best behavior.

Should you so happen to say or do something that she didn’t seem to react to all that well, you become totally obsessed over it.

After the fact, you are asking friends and family about whether there was something you said or did in that moment that resulted in her apparent negative reaction.

You are spending hours online seeking answers to queries about what it means when a girl doesn’t laugh at a joke or when a girl doesn’t give you a compliment back.

All of this obsession only compels you to be that much more on your best behavior the next time you socialize with her.

Being in love makes you overthink and obsess.

There is an overarching feeling that the stakes are really high and a stubborn fear that you are always on the brink of losing her.