Never has he not had a smile to greet you whenever you step into the bar he works at on Friday or Saturday nights to unwind.

On top of this, he knows what you love to drink.

Within seconds of seeing you, he is already preparing it just the way you like it.

When he serves it to you, his dreamy eyes are locked on yours, in tandem with his dazzling smile, and you have suddenly forgotten how much you wanted to wring your boss’s neck that week for overworking you.

All is right with the world.

As you take your favorite drink from him, your hand grazes his, and for a moment, that physical contact leaves you frozen.

So frozen, you barely get the words out, “Thank you.”

As he retreats back to the drinks shelf behind the bar, there is an additional moment of sustained eye contact.

It’s almost as though neither one of you wants to break it.

You are both hanging on, relishing those precious few extra seconds before he has to get back to serving the rest of the customers from behind the bar.

You return your attention to the friends who came into the bar with you, but you barely hear what they are saying.

All you can think about is the lingering eye contact, smiles, and that powerful feeling of longing that happens whenever he separates from you and gets back to making drinks for other customers at the bar.

He has such an effect on you that you are constantly finding yourself looking up from your station with friends to where he is behind the bar.

Every so often he takes a moment to look in your direction and smile as he makes drinks for other customers at the bar.

You can’t help but wonder whether he is attracted to you.

And you would be lying to yourself if you didn’t admit that you are attracted to him.

Yet, there is that one thing that makes you hesitate at the thought of dating him.

He is a bartender.

A bartender serves dozens of women every weekend who are ordering drinks and looking to have a good time.

You can only imagine how often he is hit on by said women.

This is where your anxiety gets worse.

The thought of him sleeping with a bunch of these women.

You don’t want to be just another number to him, as you aren’t one to take sleeping with someone lightly.

Without fail, you get far too emotionally attached to anyone you choose to sleep with.

Despite this, there remains a part of you that wants him badly.

It’s no wonder that you have your reservations about dating a bartender yet struggle to avoid being sucked into his seductive allure whenever you visit the bar.

It’s true that bartenders have a reputation for sleeping with the numerous women who flirt with them at bars.

That said, most bartenders eventually settle down.

You won’t know if he is in this contingency of bartenders without getting to know more about him.

Yes, that means that it’s time to go beyond all the eye gazing.

The next time you go to the bar, ask him questions about his interests outside the bar.

Show curiosity and find commonalities in what you both enjoy.

All of this gives you a good idea about what stage of life he is in.

A bartender who is at a stage in life where he is ready to settle down provides clues to that effect whenever he talks about his life outside the bar.

Pay attention to comments that have anything to do with stable and safe financial investments that he is making.

These include financial investments in real estate, bonds, mutual funds, retirement accounts and annuities, and certificates of deposit (CDs).

Moreover, he mentions anything to do with saving up to buy a house that he is close to making a down payment on.

These sorts of comments align with a bartender who is ready to settle down with a good woman with whom to build a life.

On the contrary, comments about barhopping, crazy roommates, drug inhalation, strip clubs, casinos, and pool parties are strong indications that his life is chaotic and he isn’t at all ready to settle down.