Monotony develops in plenty of committed relationships.

This monotony creates boredom.

A boredom that compels him to crave excitement.

Whenever he texts you, it’s a thrilling break from the monotony of his relationship with his girl.

It causes a stir within him that he hasn’t felt in a while.

You have given him a lifeline he desperately needed.

In your mind, this is exciting.

The flirting, teasing, and phenomenal humor are a nice break from the monotony of your own life.

Your life has been monotonous too.

Unlike this guy, you aren’t in a relationship.

But your daily routine has become too predictable.

Everyone in your social circle is as predictable as it gets.

Conversations with them usually consist of the same dry topics.

Your day-to-day life out in public is just as monotonous.

You meet the same people at work, lunch, the gym, etc.

Every aspect of your life has been so routine.

Suddenly, this guy shows up in your life out of nowhere.

He is handsome, confident, funny, and a tad bit arrogant.

His text messages break the monotony in your life.

They are so thrilling; you reread them at night before you fall asleep.

Before you know it, you become addicted to his attention despite the fact he has a girl.

You brush that aside, convincing yourself that he is on the verge of breaking up with her.

After all, he keeps telling you about how much more amazing you are in comparison to his girl in his text messages to you.

This misguided belief and train of thought tricks you into keeping the text message exchanges going for far too long.

Long enough for you to develop feelings for him.

You have lied to yourself that he has every intention of leaving his girl.

Sadly, his motivation wasn’t anything of the sort.

All he cared about was infusing excitement into the monotony while getting an ego boost from your attention in tandem.

He never actually intended to break up with his girl for you.

He loves his girl and has maintained his relationship with her this whole time.

Photos of her dominate his social media posts.

He takes her out on dates, has sex with her, and takes care of her when she gets sick.

And here you are.

After weeks and months of sexy and intense text messages from him, you have nothing to show for it.

Your emotions for him have deepened, but he hasn’t done anything tangible to satisfy these emotions.

There has been no date with him.

His social media posts never mention you by name.

There has been no passionate lovemaking or warm hugs whenever you have fallen sick during this time.

His lack of further action beyond text messages is a clear indication you are of little importance or value to him.

Sadly, a man like this is only using you.

As long as you keep exchanging witty and sexually charged text messages with him, he will keep taking advantage of your time and emotions.