A lot of guys struggle with getting attention from women on dating sites.

Women live in a totally different bubble when it comes to their experience on dating sites.

You have an inbox filled with messages from men and loads of matches on your match page.

This isn’t the experience of men on dating sites.

Save the top 10 to 20 percent of men who are attractive, tall, and financially successful on dating apps; the rest of the men get almost no attention from women.

Several of these guys have spent hours swiping on female profiles, only to receive no matches.

The rare times when he receives a match and sends her a message, he is unlikely to get a response.

If he receives a response, the conversation quickly fizzles out.

When he spends additional funds to get his profile highlighted, it doesn’t make much of a difference.

He gets a few extra matches from women, but unfortunately, he quickly discovers these women are nothing but fake profiles.

He learns this the hard way when he messages these profiles only to receive a message back requesting sensitive personal information or money.

When he spends extra funds yet again to buy digital gifts or send Super Likes to let certain women know of his interest in them, he has no success.

They either don’t respond or any correspondence they have is short-lived.

It is this background that many of these men come from.

The frustration of spending money to no avail and getting no attention from women has made him bitter.

He has lost his patience.

When he messages you and you don’t reply, it’s as though every negative experience he has had so far on dating sites press down on his shoulders.

He feels the overwhelming weight crushing him as he thinks about how unaccommodating women have been towards him on dating sites, and the fury within him is stoked.

As a result, he sends a new message to you.

One that is abusive, as he insults or cusses you.

He is lashing out.

It is not only you he is lashing out at when you don’t reply to his message.

He is lashing out at all the other women in the past who have done the same thing, as well as those who never responded to his digital gifts, roses, and Super Likes.

Furthermore, he is lashing out at all the fake profiles he has had to deal with.

You are only a cog in the machine.

He is lashing out at the entire machine.

It gives him a certain amount of relief to know that he was able to send an abusive message to you.

He has felt so powerless on dating sites.

In sending you an abusive message when he realized you weren’t about to reply to his first message, he got to exercise a degree of power that has been lacking throughout his time on dating sites.

Finally, he felt power.

Instead of constantly being at the mercy of unresponsive women and fake profiles, he could finally hit back.

Guys who get abusive like this are in desperate need of a cathartic moment.

A moment of power and release.

With your lack of a response to his initial message, you provided an outlet for him to experience that power and release.