Given how equality among men and women has become a staple in modern society, it has created a degree of confusion when it comes dating.

Both genders are a little confused on how to go about dating.

Men who believe in equality for women aren’t entirely sure about how far they should go with the chivalry in dating, fearful of offending a woman who has been raised in modern society.

Women are just as confused.

On the one hand, they want to be looked at as equals, yet often crave the delicacy and chivalry that come with being courted by a man.

To this end, both sexes are having a little bit of a difficult time determining how they should go about dating.

The truth is, men and women innately desire a yin and a yang.

Men are genetically wired to pursue a woman.

He wants to be the protector and provider.

Yet, in modern-day society, he doesn’t know how far he can take this.

He is interested in a woman who was raised in modern-day society who is independent with a good career and education.

To this end, he doesn’t know how she regards the old-fashioned form of dating where the man pursues and woos the woman.

So many men worry about coming off as insensitive when dating a modern woman.

As a result, he doesn’t want to be too presumptuous about what role she wants to play during courtship.

Thanks to this, the idea of bringing flowers on a date is worrisome to him.

The last thing he wants to do is offend her by assuming she wants to be given flowers, as was done to women in the old days, when she is a modern woman.

He is befuddled.

So he defaults to being cautious in how he demonstrates chivalry.

He takes it to a certain point but avoids doing too much.

To this end, he invites her out for a date but doesn’t pull out a chair when she arrives at the restaurant.

He is fearful of offending her if he were to do that and it were to be too much for her.

After a few dates, he finally asks to pick her up, and she acquiesces.

Yet, he wrestles with whether he should open the car door for her when he arrives at her place.

When he drives her home from the date, he doesn’t walk her to her door.

That might be too much, and he doesn’t want to offend her.

Again, he worries about taking chivalry too far.

She faces the same conundrum in this courtship, as she is confused about how far she wants the chivalry to go.

Being a modern woman, she knows she is strong and independent.

Yet, innately, she wants to be treated like the catch when she is being courted.

She wants to be pursued.

Nonetheless, she is fearful that in demonstrating that she wants this chivalrous treatment, she would be somehow betraying her independence.

Even though it is modern times, the truth is, when it comes to dating, both men and women innately want to fulfill their traditional roles.

Fulfilling traditional roles in dating doesn’t take away from a woman’s independence or a man’s respect for her independence.

For dating to get back to how old-fashioned it used to be, both parties should have an open conversation about how they expect to be treated.

This way, a man who wants to be chivalrous and a woman who desires to be on the receiving end of chivalry will know from the start of courtship that it is permissible to behave in this way.

This relieves the tension of courtship, making for a much more relaxed process.