Dating is a two-way street, requiring two actively participating individuals to make it work.

That is how dating has always worked and the only way it can work.

Without that, what you have with him isn’t dating, not even close to it.

With that in mind, expecting a text every 1 or 2 days isn’t clingy at all.

You are the one who usually texts.

This is where you are doing yourself a disservice.

When you are the one who usually texts, and you are dating someone who isn’t pulling his weight, it makes you come off as though you are desperate for him.

A guy who believes that he is much more desired by the woman he is dating is prone to getting lackadaisical.

Generally speaking, guys aren’t accustomed to being able to relax when they are dating a girl at such an preliminary stage.

Men are usually expected to put in the lion’s share of work when dating a girl in regard to communicating with her, taking her out on dates, showing her attention and affection, and so on.

By texting him first almost all the time, you are letting him off the hook.

You are setting the tone that you don’t expect him to put in the work to keep you.

Since men aren’t used to being in this position, some take advantage of it.

That is what he is doing.

The effort he was putting out initially is now lacking.

He has gotten used to you texting him first and expects that to continue happening moving forward.

That has led to your unhappiness, as you question whether an expectation that he texts you at least every 1 or 2 days is clingy.

It isn’t.

You are only thinking in this manner because there is so little coming from him in regard to communication.

You are so desperate for him to text you that you are wondering whether a text every day or two is too much.

When two people are dating each other, a text every 1 or 2 days isn’t asking for a lot.

Unfortunately, the problem is that you have set the tone for this relationship.

Since you are the one who usually texts first, he has gotten used to it and has become lethargic.

He is expecting you to initiate the text messages, while he sits back and does as little as possible.

You will also notice that he won’t be asking you out on dates anywhere near as much as he did in the beginning.

Keeping this in mind, if you have expectations to go on further dates with him in the foreseeable future, be prepared for these dates to be far and few in-between.

Once a guy shows this amount of reluctance to text a girl he is dating, this customarily transfers into other areas of the relationship, like a disease.

If you want any chance at corralling this relationship into a path that is more balanced, you have to stop initiating text messages to him.

Given that he is used to receiving texts from you first, he is going to realize that you haven’t initiated a text message to him.

This compels him to initiate a text message to you.

Don’t reply right away.

Take your time, a few hours.

Keep doing this moving forward and eventually he will complain that you don’t initiate texts anymore and you take a long time to respond.

This is where you now have his attention.

Use this moment to explain to him that you expect a balance of communication between you two.

Now that he knows you are capable of not initiating texts to him, he is more likely to heed your words and start initiating texts to you on a regular basis.

A behavior change in how frequently he texts first often leads to a change in his overall behavior, where he becomes more proactive in taking you out on dates as well.