Protecting your best friend is part of your job as a friend.

Although it isn’t your place to interfere in the intricacies of a person’s relationship as far as what rules they have set for each other as two adults, it doesn’t mean you should apply this courtesy in every aspect.

Seeing your best friend’s partner with an active account on a dating site is one of those exceptions.

You can’t stay quiet about this.

Yes, you are fearful that telling your best friend about this is a step too far and that it could possibly cause a rift in your relationship with her, or worse, its termination.

This fear is reasonable.

That said, what kind of best friend would you be if you see something like this and stay quiet?

By doing nothing, your best friend continues on in her relationship with her boyfriend completely oblivious of what is happening.

She continues to share her precious time with him, going on dates, trips, hanging out with each other’s friends and family, etc.

Her life continues to be progressively interwoven with his to such an extent that she becomes fully emotionally invested and doesn’t see a future without him in it.

All of this is happening over the course of several months as you stay quiet about the fact that you have seen his active profile on a dating site.

Every time you talk to her on the phone or hang out with her as friends, you will always have a certain amount of guilt knowing that there is critical information about her boyfriend that you are keeping from her.

Meanwhile, she is telling you about the trip to Europe she just got back from with her boyfriend and how much fun they had.

Her voice is filled with admiration and adoration for him.

You can tell she is falling deeper in love with him, completely oblivious to the fact that he is active on a dating site.

The guilt alone will be a lot to bear for you, and it could affect how you interact with her.

As in, knowing that any conversation or hang-out with her will only cause you to feel the weight of this guilt, you choose to cut some of those conversations short or pass on meeting her for lunch every now and then.

All of a sudden, the best friend you know and love becomes an albatross around your neck whenever the idea of talking to or hanging out with her for any considerable length of time is entertained.

Why put yourself and your best friend through an ordeal like this?

Telling her that you have seen his active profile on a dating site is your only remedy.

Even if your worst fears come true and she decides to no longer be your best friend upon hearing this news and her boyfriend likely denying it, you did what you were supposed to do.

If he is genuinely the cheating type, his cheating ways are bound to surface during the course of his relationship with her.

This means that your best friend realizes you were right about him all along and decides to make amends with you.