The person wants you to bear the burden of having to choose the spot for a first date.

This alleviates a significant amount of pressure on him to deliver a successful first date.

Basically, he wants you to bear a sizable degree of responsibility for the first date.

This way, should it not go well, you can’t say he is to blame for picking a bad location for the first date.

The danger in picking a spot for a first date is in you taking responsibility for the suitability of said location and how the date pans out in it.

It keeps him from having to take full charge over where to go for a first date.

Although it sounds considerate of him to ask you to pick the spot for a first date, it isn’t advantageous to you, as it often leads to him expecting you to take charge in other areas.

Once a guy is let off the hook in organizing dates in the early stages of courtship, he is primed to not take you seriously.

This is where he is leaving it to you to come up with ideas for future dates, expecting you to initiate text messages and phone calls, as well as looking to you to pay for some of these dates.

Clearly, you haven’t thought about all of this.

If you are inexperienced in dating, this naivete is no fault of your own.

However, thinking about where you should go on this first date and letting him off the hook in coming up with an idea is detrimental.

A courtship works more effectively when you allow the man to put in the work to initiate dates, plan them out, and pay for said dates.

A man is a natural hunter.

He is at peak performance when his testosterone is operating on a high.

This is where he is taking initiative to call a girl and set up dates.

When some of this responsibility is alleviated because the girl has been complicit in picking spots for dates, he won’t be anywhere as hungry as he should be.

It isn’t a given that he is aware of what he is doing in asking you to pick a spot for a first date.

It’s possible he is fairly inexperienced in dating and believes that asking you to pick a spot for a first date is how he shows fairness and equality.

That is a naïve approach to dating, as it goes against male and female biological programming.

Women gravitate towards men who take charge and lead.

This is how he demonstrates his future ability to provide for and protect you, which are qualities that are of the utmost importance to women in search of a long-term partner.

When this sentiment is absent, you will give up on him at some point, which makes for a waste of time.

It’s not that you can’t pick where to go on later dates, such as doing picnics or visiting a farmer’s market, but for the first few dates, it’s better you leave the choice of where to go to him.