Before going about reconnecting with an ex, he has to be single.

An ex who is single is much more likely to be emotionally available to you, as there is no one else who is compromising his emotional energy.

Next, you shouldn’t be seeking to reconnect with an ex for the wrong reasons.

If you are only looking to reconnect because you are lonely and miss him, this isn’t a good reason.

It is too desperate.

Such desperation compels you to only be concerned with satisfying your loneliness and nothing else.

Any reconnection would be short-lived once that loneliness is satiated and the old issues that led to the breakup in the first place begin to resurface.

Speaking of which, you must know why the relationship ended in the first place.

Wherever you were at fault, you have to do the work on yourself to grow and improve.

Without doing the necessary work on yourself, it’s inevitable that you will make the same mistakes that contributed to the dissolution of the relationship.

The same applies to your ex.

For any reconciliation to work in the long run, he also has to have done the work on himself to fix wherever he was deficient.

At present, to reconnect with your ex, you are much better off going about it in person.

Instead of doing it over text messages or DMs on social media, which aren’t particularly effective, go to places he frequents for socializing.

Your physical presence is so much more powerful than words on a screen.

It has an aura to it that can be intoxicating, as it takes him back to what it was like when he was dating you and discovering who you were.

To facilitate this, make sure you look your absolute best.

If you have gained weight since the breakup, get a gym membership or work out by yourself until you have lost the weight.

The better you look, the better your chances to reconnect, especially if you look better than how you looked when he was in a relationship with you.

Since guys are very visual, presenting an alluring physicality allows him to start looking at you with a higher level of intensity and desire.

The physicality captures his attention.

The high energy you are demonstrating as you talk to your friends further compels him to make his way towards you.

Before you know it, he is standing in front of you with a smile, intent on opening a conversation with you.

He turns on the charm and so should you.

Laugh at his jokes and flirt back.

In no time, he is reminded of how much fun it was to court you and be in a relationship with you.

He isn’t thinking about what caused the relationship to end but rather is more focused on how good the two of you were in the beginning.

At this point, the dopamine is surging through him, making him feel euphoric as he talks to you.

By the end of the night, he will want to stay in touch and might ask you out on a tentative date.

In the weeks that follow, match his positive energy and follow his lead as he texts and takes you out on dates.

Be sure you don’t sleep with him too soon.

Too many exes erroneously reconnect and start having sex too soon, ruining the chances of the renewed relationship working out.

Rather, when the time is right, talk to each other about where the past relationship went wrong and establish a detailed plan for how you both intend to avoid making the same mistakes.

This forethought and maturity elevates the likelihood that this reconnection will result in a much better relationship the second time around.