Playing games to get someone to like you is damaging in the long term.

The games can get you that person in the short term, but they ultimately lead to you losing that person in the long term.

When you play games, you act in an unnatural way so as to psychologically get the person you like to like you back.

Whether it be playing hard to get by making yourself regularly unavailable for conversations and dates or giving the impression that you are distracted by lots of other male suitors as you keep withholding compliments and affection from him, the games lead to a voracious desire on his part to be with you.

But these psychological tricks only work to get him to like you and be with you in the short term.

He is fearful of losing you to one of the men you have been flaunting as a potential suitor, compelling him to force the issue to over-impress you.

By doing this, he skips the most important part of courtship.

That of taking the time to get to know you better.

Thanks to the psychological effect of the games you are playing, he is far more caught up on winning you over.

Seeing that you are scarce, seemingly unavailable, and about to slip away from him to some other male competitor, he becomes exponentially desperate to capture your attention.

This means that he is skipping the most important parts of courtship.

Learning whether you are genuinely compatible with him.

Rather, he is consumed with chasing you, desperate to get you to finally agree to go out on a date with him or talk to him on the phone for longer than a few minutes.

This means that his interactions with you, whether in person or on the phone, will be primarily superficial, as he is far more concerned with entertaining you, keeping you laughing, so that he doesn’t bore you.

By doing this, he is hoping that you keep giving him your time by agreeing to future dates and extensive conversations over the phone.

When you play games, you create a psychological hook in his mind that artificially elevates your value in his eyes, compelling him to pedestalize you too prematurely.

The scarcity and lack of affection makes him crave more of your time with the intention of getting you to like him.

These are psychological tricks that work in getting him to desire you, born from the fear of losing you to someone else, being that you have artificially inflated your value on account of playing these games.

Nevertheless, once he gets you to start going out with him and time passes, he is now in a position to see who you really are.

If that person isn’t compatible with who he is, he won’t want to keep dating you.

He courted you because you were playing games in showing little to no interest or introducing other men into the equation, which compelled him to be more focused on getting you or winning you over than learning about who you really are as a person.

Once he starts dating you, it is inevitable that he comes to learn about what your true personality is and be turned off by it.

Since you are someone who believes you have to play games to get someone to like you, there are likely several deficiencies in your personality that require your immediate attention.

To eliminate these deficiencies, build your self-esteem by getting involved in different activities that challenge you and foster personal growth through resilience.

Over time, this develops confidence within yourself as well as new friendships with positive people who enrich your life.

All of which makes it unnecessary for you to pretend to be someone you aren’t.

Personal growth should be your focal point at this time, as opposed to playing games to get a guy to like you.

Once you do this, you won’t be compelled to play games to get someone to like you.