Shy women are highly difficult to read.
She is sitting among her friends, hiding from view, looking at her smartphone, and unengaged.
Whereas her more outgoing girlfriends are talking to each other, talking to men they just met at the social venue they are in, flirting, laughing, and showing excitement and engagement.
This kind of body language makes a guy look at an outgoing woman as someone they can approach and talk to.
He looks at how much fun she is having and how much conversation she is having with people at large as a sign that she is open to talking to strangers.
Ergo, he comes to her and opens up a conversation.
If the conversation goes well, he buys her a drink.
They exchange phone numbers and socials by the end of the night and go on a first date within a week.
It’s that easy for him and her, and it was all about body language and openness.
Shy women rarely show open body language.
She is constantly self-conscious and worried about being judged by guys at social venues or in public.
Instead of mimicking her outgoing girlfriends in making eye contact with guys and smiling, her body language becomes closed-off, and she is either staring at her smartphone or crossing her arms over her chest while talking to the friend that is closest to her, purposely keeping said friend from getting out and socializing with other people in the venue.
A shy woman in social situations purposely keeps herself preoccupied with her smartphone or with a friend in her group she is keeping from socializing with others.
If you are a shy woman, you have undoubtedly behaved like this in social situations.
It’s no wonder you have struggled to get the attention of guys and go out on dates.
When you exhibit closed-off body language and never venture out of your protective circle of girlfriends whenever you are in social situations, guys would be reluctant to approach you and open a conversation.
The impression he has of you is that of a woman who doesn’t want to be approached and talked to.
Since guys are enormously fearful of rejection from a woman, they do everything in their power to look for inviting body language from a woman before they make a move on her.
Even though all of this closed-off behavior is connected to your shy nature, guys who look in your direction won’t see it that way.
Since he doesn’t know you personally, he instantly assumes that your closed-off body language is an indication of someone who isn’t friendly and doesn’t want to be approached or talked to.
The crazy thing is this.
Guys actually prefer women who are more demure and soft-spoken, which are characteristics plenty of shy women possess.
It makes such a woman profoundly ladylike and endearing.
Sadly, the guys who see you in social situations don’t know you and, thereby, are unaware that you are shy and harmless.
All they see is your unfriendly outward body language, which keeps them from taking a risky chance on approaching you and opening a conversation.
Moving forward, showing open and friendly body language such as making eye contact and smiling at men you are attracted to in social situations is certain to change your dating life for the better.