Guys don’t start off wanting to be a stepdad to the child of the woman they are courting.

Their initial intent is to get to know the woman.

A woman who so happens to have a child.

He isn’t thinking about the child per se, he is thinking about you.

He wants to get to know you.

He is physically attracted to you, and is curious about the prospects of a romantic connection with you.

It’s you that he is primarily concerned with.

Your child isn’t at the forefront of his thoughts.

Whether he already has a child of his own or doesn’t, he is principally concerned about getting to know you.

It is only when he realizes how much he likes you that thoughts of your child become more prevalent in his mind.

Being that he knows that he has found a romantic connection with you, he becomes interested in the well-being and happiness of your child.

He knows that by being kind to your child, you are made happy.

Making you happy, makes him happy.

When he knows that you are the woman he wants to marry, he has taken your child into account.

He has seen how happy you are when he spends time with your child.

The moment when your eyes lit up as he surprised your child with baseball tickets to watch a game starring their favorite baseball team.

How you teared up when he was reading your child a bedtime story.

The manner in which you profusely thanked him for picking your child up at school while you were tied up at work.

By the time he knows that he wants to make you his wife, he has had numerous moments where he has made you happy by kind gestures he did for your child.

Now that he knows that you are the woman he wants to spend the rest of his life with, he is fully aware that you and your child are a pair, and one can’t go without the other.

The moments he has spent with your child has made him develop a fondness for him.

He likes how your child looks up to him, and is beside themselves whenever they know he is coming to visit.

He likes the fact that your child has fallen in love with him too.

A combination of the love he has for you, and the fondness he has developed for your child, is what makes him fully invested in the idea of being a stepdad.

Now that he knows that he wants to spend the rest of his life with you as his wife, he is ready to be a stepdad to your child.

Keep in mind, men you meet in the early stages of courtship aren’t champing at the bit to become a stepdad to your child.

It is not until they have fallen for you that they entertain the idea of being a stepdad to your child.

Ergo, it is important that you don’t spend the early weeks of courtship with a guy constantly talking about your child.

This is far too early, and turns a guy off, whether he is childless or has a child of his own.

Remember, when it is this early, he wants to get to know you, not your child.

Make sure that the time you spend with him is all about showing him your amazing personality.

This is what he falls in love with.

Once he has fallen in love with who you are as a person, he becomes open to becoming a stepdad to your child.