After he fills you with laughs, he fills you with confusion.
It’s as though you are waking up in different dimensions whenever you are around this guy.
He gives you more emotional highs and lows than you know what to do with.
On the one hand, it feels amazing when he is hot with you.
He is flirting with you and cracking jokes that make you laugh so hard your belly aches.
On the other hand, he has days where he is stupendously cold.
He acknowledges you with a lukewarm disposition, as though he is bothered by your presence or couldn’t care less that you are there.
Also, he can be completely nonchalant where he isn’t at all acknowledging your presence.
In these moments, you look at him a few times because you can sense how distant he is being, but he doesn’t bother to make any eye contact.
He doesn’t even give you that.
Next thing you know, you are sad and depressed.
For the rest of your day, you are struggling to focus on anything else.
As you talk to friends or hang out with them, your mind isn’t at all engaged.
All you can think about is why he was so lukewarm with you earlier that day or why he completely ignored you.
Sadly, what you are going through is why this guy is hot and cold with you.
He likes it when he has this kind of power.
The power to influence how you feel from one moment to the next.
He has the power to put your mind and emotions in the clouds one day and the power to put your mind and emotions in the gutter the next.
This gives him a thrill.
He knows he has the capability of making or breaking your day.
With this kind of power and influence over your emotions, he chooses to be hot and cold in how he treats you.
The reality is, he doesn’t care to court you.
He isn’t interested in seeing whether there is any romantic potential between you.
He is much more about playing with your emotions and experiencing the power and dopamine rush that comes with the emotional ups and downs you go through.
The scary thing is what this does to you.
It has the capacity to make you addicted to the emotional ups and downs.
The emotional ups and downs are a trap in that they have an intoxicating effect.
Basically, you become addicted to the emotional highs and lows that this guy who is hot and cold triggers in you.
This leads to an emotional dependency.
You rely on him to make you feel these emotions.
Sadly, your mind misinterprets these emotional ups and downs as a sign there is a romantic connection and you care about him.
But it is more so the emotional ups and downs that you become addicted to.
So, whether it is the power he enjoys in playing with your emotions or the addiction you experience for the emotional highs and lows, neither one of you is in a healthy situation.
He doesn’t genuinely like you or want to court you.
And you are more caught up in the emotional highs and lows than a genuine desire to get to know this guy.
It goes without saying that someone has to sever the cord; otherwise, the unhealthy situation persists, and you risk long-lasting emotional damage to yourself.