The spaces you put yourself in are filled with younger men.

Even though you are in your thirties, you continue to put yourself in the same spaces you did when you were in your twenties.

Are you religiously going to nightclubs to socialize just as you did when you were in your twenties?

Nightclubs are havens for younger men who are often in their twenties.

Old habits die hard.

When you were in your twenties, you were all over the nightclubs.

In your thirties, nothing has changed.

You keep frequenting the same nightclubs you went to in your twenties.

To make matters worse, you have maintained the same group of girlfriends into your thirties.

The same girls who went out to nightclubs with you when you were all in your twenties.

This means that whenever it is time to go out, they are prone to keep suggesting you all go to a nightclub, which results in the same cycle being repeated over and over.

Since you look much younger than someone in her thirties, the younger men who dominate these nightclubs think you are in your twenties.

And since nightclubs are usually occupied by people in their twenties, he doesn’t suspect that you are in your thirties.

He is thinking you are in your twenties.

Thanks to these circumstances, he approaches you.

As long as nightclubs remain a staple in your life, this phenomenon won’t change.

It becomes that much harder for you to attract men your own age when you keep going to spaces younger men predominantly occupy.

Other popular spaces younger men occupy are sports bars, pool halls, low-price commercial gyms and fitness centers, tech-oriented functions, basketball or sports courts, recreational sports league fields, hiking trails, community colleges for classes, and digital gaming stores.

If these are spaces you are often in, it’s no wonder you keep attracting younger men.

Men your own age are in spaces such as higher-priced fitness centers and gyms, breweries and craft beer bars, gaming stores with physical or tabletop games, bowling alleys, music venues, workshops for hobbies like woodworking or fixing machinery, hiking trails, mountain biking routes, camping areas, in-house cookouts, parties, or movie and game nights with friends.

How consistently do you put yourself in these spaces?

These are spaces dominated by men in their thirties.

Additionally, expand your social circle with new female friends who are in their thirties and look and act the part.

To find these new female friends, join interest groups where they occupy.

These are spaces such as coffee shops, yoga, Pilates and meditation classes, local parks, art galleries and museums, pickleball and sports courts, curated gyms that offer spin and Zumba classes, and farmer’s markets.

Making new friends with these puts you in the company of women your own age who look and act the part.

It is easier to attract men your own age when you are usually in the company of women your own age who look and act the part.

Additionally, these women have male friends who are in their thirties and are sure to invite you to events where these men will be attending.

All of this provides opportunities for you to be exposed to men in their thirties, some of whom are likely to be attracted to you.