Whenever you are courted by a guy, you are particularly sensitive to the notion of being a user.

Additionally, you are a modern woman who is well-educated with a career and a great income.

Equality between the sexes is a critical factor you espouse.

To this effect, you want to pay for dinner on a date.

There is nothing wrong with this.

This said, it’s important you only pay for dinner when you are already several dates in with a guy who has been paying for the dates.

This means he has been leading thus far, which is what makes a courtship flow naturally.

Once you pay for dinner, don’t make a big deal out of it.

The last thing you want to do is emasculate him.

It was a nice gesture.

Leave it at that.

What he does on subsequent dates will be a true litmus test for whether you are dealing with a bona fide traditional man.

A traditional man continues to lead in the aftermath, planning and paying for dates as he had been doing on the previous dates before you ever paid for dinner.

If you pay for dinner and he is suddenly expecting you to start paying for more of the dates moving forward, this is confirmation he isn’t authentically a traditional man.

Sometimes, there are men who pretend to be traditional early on in courtship, believing this will score points with the woman.

But once the woman pays for a date, he suddenly switches into getting her to pay the bill for several of the subsequent dates.

Even though you have an education and a great career, you have a biological imperative to date a man with traditional attributes.

For this to happen, the man has to lead in courtship.

So, without realizing it, by actually paying for a dinner, you are giving yourself a good chance to determine whether he is authentically a traditional man by how he behaves moving forward.

Although there can be an emotional high that comes from paying for dinner, don’t let it get to your head.

Be sure to keep giving him the leeway to lead.

If you erroneously start taking matters into your own hands by planning dates and paying for several of them, you are bound to reach a point where you no longer feel like you are being pursued.

This results in a loss of respect for him, which ruins the courtship process.

Also, tell him beforehand that you are paying for dinner.

Without this forewarning, attempting to pay for dinner on the spot might trigger a traditional man to do everything in his power to keep you from doing it.

Telling him before the dinner date itself gives him the latitude to process and accept it.

A traditional man won’t take advantage of you in the aftermath of you paying for dinner.

The kind gesture is a clear signal of your sincerity.

Thanks to this sincerity, the fervor he uses to court you in the aftermath is that much stronger.