Although you are excited about a guy, getting ahead of yourself is ill-advised.
The euphoria and excitement you are experiencing early isn’t a sign that he is the one to be exclusive with.
The exclusivity talk should happen naturally, after a period of time where you have assessed the validity of who he is.
No one is perfect.
No matter how good you feel about a guy, it doesn’t mean that he doesn’t have shortcomings.
He does.
As does every human being.
Whenever we allow the excitement we feel for someone to get the best of us, we ignore important signs early on that would have given us further insight into who the person is.
It takes a while for this insight to be established.
A guy can show a false self when he is dating a girl in the early stages by acting in a manner he knows she gravitates to, wanting to impress her.
That said, it is only a matter of time before the façade cracks.
When you aren’t in a rush to have the exclusivity talk, you give yourself an opportunity to determine whether his behavior has been authentic to who he is.
It’s next to impossible to keep up a fake act for an extended period of time.
A guy that is showing a fake life and personality is bound to crack every so often.
When stories change over time in regard to his life experience, background, belief system, etc., these are surefire signs that he isn’t being honest about who he is to you.
Furthermore, it’s absolutely critical that he is vetted before you think about having an exclusivity talk.
This means that you become acquainted with his friends and a few of his family members to an extent.
These are people in his social circle.
Knowing who these people are and interacting with them gives you firsthand insight into the environment he grew up in and the quality of people he chooses to make his friends.
A man with a dysfunctional and toxic group of friends and family is suspect, regardless of how charming and sweet he appears to be whenever he is interacting with you.
It would be highly unusual for someone to grow up in a dysfunctional and toxic household and choose to become friends with toxic people if he isn’t toxic too.
Instead of getting too caught up in how excited you are about him, think about what exclusivity means.
It means a long-term committed relationship.
How can you possibly know if he would be faithful when you haven’t taken the time to learn more about his past girlfriends?
And no, what he tells you about them doesn’t count.
Keep in mind that a fake guy that is intent on impressing you will say whatever he has to in order to win you over.
Knowing his dating history is pivotal, and it starts with you knowing who these girls are and contacting a few of them to get their feedback on their relationship with him.
The exclusivity talk is a big deal and shouldn’t be done too prematurely on account of how excited you are about him.
Those are heightened emotions that lead you into making hasty decisions if you don’t corral them.
Give it 2 to 3 months.
As long as you are both consistently interacting with each other during this time, and you follow the aforementioned caveats, that is enough time to determine whether he is worthy of the exclusivity talk.