These are guys who were never genuinely interested in meeting you on a date in the first place.

Even though it seemed as though there was interest on his part, much of that had to do with how much he was enjoying the attention you were giving him.

It was obvious that you were showing strong signs of being more into him than he was into you.

You were the one who was showing the most enthusiasm whenever you talked to him on the phone or texted each other.

He easily read into how excited you were about him.

You were very taken with him and didn’t realize that you were putting in more effort into the interaction than he was.

Whether it was in how frequently you initiated contact or compliments to him, or how readily available you were to chitchat the few times he would initiate contact, you were doing too much.

Yes, he responded to what you were doing, not so much because he was as equally excited about you, but because he loved that kind of attention and worship.

Whenever he received a text, phone call, or compliment that you initiated, it boosted his ego and pride.

All of this work on your end did not only boost his ego and pride, but it also took away any strong desire for him to put in the work to properly get to know you.

A man is usually the most inspired to get to know a woman who has romantic potential when he has skin in the game.

Basically, he is curious about you, and this inspires him to be more proactive in how he interacts with you.

With this mindset, he is the one that is initiating most of the text messages, phone calls, and compliments.

This wasn’t the case with you.

It’s no wonder that guys keep canceling dates and standing you up on dates.

These are men who weren’t all that excited about you to begin with.

The signs were there, but you chose to ignore them, allowing yourself to believe that the positive responses you would receive from these men whenever you initiated communication or a compliment were a sign that they liked you.

It wasn’t.

Whether he is a man who is used to receiving attention from women or not, he loves how good it makes him feel when it happens.

He willfully soaks up the attention until that time arrives to follow through on a date.

All of a sudden, everything has become too real, as he has to take real action in physically showing up on a date.

This is when he cancels on you or stands you up.

Moving forward, quell your enthusiasm with men that are of romantic interest to you.

Men are the most inspired to show up on dates when they have been talking to a woman that has allowed them to pursue.

That means you aren’t being overzealous or overly excited during the early phase of communication.

You leave it to him to initiate most conversations and ultimately plan the dates out.

This keeps him emotionally invested in the exchange, giving him a reason to lean in and court you conscientiously.

With this kind of investment, a guy is much less likely to cancel a date or stand you up.