The places you hang out to find or attract men aren’t appropriate.

There aren’t a bunch of good men in these places.

Whether these are bars, nightclubs, or pool parties, frequenting these locations is disadvantageous.

Good men are hard to find in these locations.

Men that frequent bars, nightclubs, or pool parties are generally looking to hook up.

These are social locations that promote alcohol consumption.

When you are surrounded by men who are already inebriated, it’s a struggle to conduct substantive conversations with them.

Even when a conversation begins with substance, it segues into a sexually explicit one, heavily influenced by alcohol.

He already sees his buddies pairing off with inebriated women who are intent on sleeping with them that very night, and he doesn’t want to be left out.

Finding or attracting a good man in social environments that are sexually-charged, thanks to a bevy of scantily-clad women, and a never-ending supply of alcohol, is a considerable feat.

Sadly, your peers pressure you to attend these locations with them so as to meet and socialize with men.

This is what keeps you from finding or attracting a good man.

Think about how successful these friends have been at finding or attracting good men of their own.

Think about the girlfriend that keeps complaining to you about her boyfriend.

The boyfriend she met at a local bar, who was inebriated, but so attractive.

She complains about how he never takes her out on dates, or returns her texts promptly.

She cries over how reluctant he is to stop talking to his ex-girlfriends, and how he constantly follows scantily-clad girls on social media.

There is so much drama in her relationship with this man.

And she isn’t the only one.

You have other girlfriends who hooked up with men from bars, nightclubs, and pool parties.

Several of them inadvertently got into casual relationships with these men that never led to healthy long-term relationships.

Clearly, your friends are finding and attracting men who aren’t qualified for healthy long-term relationships.

Avoid the same fate by making a change in where you socialize with the opposite sex.

Instead of bars, nightclubs, and pool parties, become a part of or go to volunteer events, church, bookstores, parks, conventions, educational classes, and recreational sports leagues.

All of these environments put you in the midst of good men.

Men who volunteer to help people in need display character traits associated with goodness.

He is kind, caring, intentional, and considerate.

The same applies to men you meet in positive environments such as church, bookstores, parks, conventions, educational classes or recreational sports leagues.

These are character traits that are lacking in men you come across in bars, nightclubs, and pool parties.

Kind character traits such as a smile and a friendly disposition goes a long way in these positive environments.

Good men in these positive environments have similar character traits, which draws them to you, and inspires them to open up conversations with you.

Should there be romantic chemistry, these conversations often lead to healthy long-term relationships.