Try not to think too hard about the approach or the woman in question that you are thinking about approaching.
This is one of the biggest mistakes guys make when it comes to approaching women.
They think about the approach so long and hard that they end up discouraging themselves from doing it.
This is when your insecurities set in.
The more you think about the approach, the more likely you will begin to create stories in your mind of how things are going to go down.
You will most likely create negative scenarios because you are so unsure about all of this.
You may even begin to be fearful of freezing. That thought alone may terrify you enough to avoid approaching the woman completely.
This is also when you will start thinking longer and harder about the woman in question.
Your mind will begin to create stories about her too.
You may tell yourself that she is too pretty for you.
You may tell yourself that she will think that you are a creep just for approaching her.
You may tell yourself that she surely has a boyfriend.
You may tell yourself that she doesn’t seem to be in a good mood and it may be best that you don’t approach her.
In essence, the more you think about her, the more stories you will create in your mind.
The more stories you create in your mind, the longer you hesitate.
The longer you hesitate, the more nervous you get.
You have literally created all of these insecurities within the space of a few seconds to a few minutes, yet it will feel like you have been standing there for hours.
The weight of that sense of time alone will make it even that much harder for you to approach her.
Your mind can honestly be your worst enemy when it comes to approaching women.
It is what creates those insecurities in the first place.
But what you need to understand is that you have a lot of control over your mind.
You are the one in charge of it.
You are the one in charge of where it goes as far as your thoughts are concerned.
You are the one in charge of how it reasons.
Take a moment to understand that. It is so important that you do.
If you are able to understand just how much power and control you truly have over your mind, you will be surprised at how quickly you can rein it in and keep it in check.
When you are in front of that woman and you want to approach, your mind will instantly begin to allow the stories to come forth.
This is when you exercise control of it.
In essence, you stop your mind from creating those stories by understanding that those thoughts are nothing but mere images and just aren’t real.
If your mind is clear, you are in a much better position to handle your insecurities.
There really wouldn’t be any to speak of at that moment because your mind would be clear.
This is the moment that you quickly move in to talk to this woman.
Time is of the essence. The longer you wait, the more time you give your mind to return with all those stories.
Your control over it becomes more difficult the longer you wait.
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