How Well Do You Need To Know Someone Before Asking Them To Dinner?

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How Well Do You Need To Know Someone Before Asking Them To Dinner?

Not well at all.

If you have already interacted with this person and you feel like you both have good chemistry, you can ask them to dinner if you choose.

You don’t want to be that person who keeps doubting themselves and never takes action.

When you are that person who keeps wondering if this is the right thing to do, you may come off as very unsure of yourself and this can be a turn off to this other person.

You should allow yourself to go with what feels right.

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If you feel like asking this person out to dinner, then do so.

It is for a reason.

You are feeling a connection with this person that may lead to something more.

The idea here is that you shouldn’t overthink things.

This is what you may be doing.

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You may be overthinking this and trying to figure out if asking this person out right now is a good idea.

The truth is that you never really get to know someone entirely.

Getting to know someone is truly an unending process.

There are people who have been in relationships or marriages for years and are still getting to know one another.

This is because human beings are multi-faceted.

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There is a lot to learn and as you are learning, that same person continues to change.

Hence, you are now learning something new about them that wasn’t even there before.

If you were to keep waiting until you “know” this person, you may be waiting for a very long time or into perpetuity.

Just take the plunge and ask this person to dinner if that is what you truly want to do.

You will continue getting to know them through dinner and beyond.

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The last thing you should want to do is allow this question to become a delay tactic.

This is what often happens.

You ponder and ponder until you pretty much lose the person entirely.

You lose the person because they start believing that you may not like them due to the fact that you haven’t asked them out yet.

You lose the person because they may start feeling like they are wasting their time with a person that has no backbone.

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You don’t want to be that person.

You should be confident in how you feel and just go with it.

The dinner doesn’t have to be anything elaborate.

You could even start off with a light lunch if that will make you feel less pressure.

You could also go for ice cream or yogurt to start with too.

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You don’t have to have a band at your table to serenade your date.

Try your best not to allow the pressure of expectations to weigh you down.

Just keep it simple.

Either do a simple lunch, brunch, snack or dinner.

Done.

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No need to go crazy pulling out the red carpet.

Understand that you really want the opportunity for the both of you to continue to interact and see how far the chemistry goes.

By keeping things simple, you allow yourselves the opportunity to get to know each other better without the added pressure of having to have everything look and feel perfect.

010By Luke Iwuji, a dating coach and founder of DatingLogic.net. For the best professional dating or relationship advice, Book a Session with me.