When you want to invite her for a coffee, do so without overthinking it, or making too much of it in your mind.

Overthinking makes you talk yourself out of inviting her for a coffee.

Inviting her for a coffee by asking her to do so in a succinct and clear fashion is the proper approach.

Guys who are unsure of themselves talk too much before getting to the invite.

Talking too much before getting to the invite builds up your anxiety that much more.

This ends up causing the opposite of what you were wanting.

You don’t know whether she is warmed up enough to make the invite.

So, you keep chatting her up waiting for that perfect moment.

But as you keep talking to her, you continue to struggle to gauge whether she has warmed up to you.

This is where you are judging your conversation with her.

You are dissatisfied with how she is responding to the conversation and keep pushing away giving her an invite for coffee.

If she isn’t responding with a lot of enthusiasm to the conversation, you tell yourself that this is a hint not to ask her for coffee at this time.

On the other hand, if she is responding to the conversation with enthusiasm, you are encouraged by this, but you don’t take advantage of that moment to do the invite.

This is where you are holding on to the idea that you have to warm her up even more.

During the conversation, her energy wanes all of a sudden and you become discouraged.

As a result, you choose not to make the invite until the next time around.

The hope is to get her to a heightened level of energy and maintain it.

By focusing on so much conversation beforehand, you are setting yourself up to never actually make the invite for coffee.

Unbeknownst to you, this is a defensive approach that elucidates your doubts about the likelihood she says yes to an invite for coffee.

This defensive approach works against you.

In these instances, you have been talking so much, hoping to warm her up, that you would deem it odd or awkward to suddenly change the topic to one of getting coffee together.

Basically, you talk yourself into a corner.

The conversation has been taken so far, you struggle to navigate it back to a position where it feels appropriate to invite her for coffee.

Time is precious.

If you talk for too long and she has somewhere to go to, you run the risk of her cutting the conversation short.

After all, she has to get to a meeting or wherever it is she needs to get to.

At this moment, it is that much more difficult to make the invite, given that she is in a hurry.

Asking her for coffee when she is trying to get somewhere fast is awkward and anxiety-inducing.

This is why you should ask her for coffee as quickly as you can.

Avoid the verbose conversation beforehand in a futile attempt to build up the courage to ask her for coffee.

All that does is make you increasingly nervous about when you should ask her for coffee.

In lieu of this, ask her for a coffee and avoid all the embellishment.