In general, a guy doesn’t stay mad for very long. Typically, he will feel that initial surge of anger but it does tend to dissipate within a matter of hours or a couple of days.
If you made a guy mad, your best option is to leave him be. The mistake that a lot of girls make is when they keep trying to assuage the guy or talk to him.
They keep calling, texting, emailing, etc., and this only makes the guy more mad.
Every time you do this, you remind him that he is actually mad at you.
He may have been in the process of actually cooling off and calming down.
Now he sees that you have called him six times in the last hour and it infuriates him even more. He consequently stays mad at you.
What you have done here is prolong the fact that he is mad at you by your incessant attempts to communicate.
When a guy is mad, he needs his time away from that source of anger.
He may go hang out with his buddies, play some video games, fix his car, go for a drink.
In these moments, he is in his own head and just needs some time to allow his emotions to calm down.
Now, sometimes, a guy will stay mad longer than he typically would because he really wants to drive a point home.
If there is something that you have been doing over the course of time that hasn’t agreed with him, he may decide to stay mad at you longer just so that you get it.
Perhaps you two always argue about money.
He may stay mad at you for a few extra days just to drive the point home that he doesn’t like these kind of arguments.
It doesn’t actually mean that during this entire time, he is still mad on an emotional level.
Typically, he has already stopped being mad but he gives it another few days just to ensure that you understand that he doesn’t like these kinds of arguments.
A guy would be more likely to do something like this than actually tell you verbally about what makes him mad.
This is because guys tend to have a harder time expressing their feelings.
They weren’t taught how to do that as children nor have they been shown that by doing so, they aren’t any less manly.
Hence, in protest, he may do something with his body language as opposed to actually tell you verbally what is actually making him so mad.
His body language in this instance would be aloof and constricted.
He would stay away from communication for a few extra days.
Again, your best option in this case is to simply give him his time to cool off.
Guys calm down relatively quickly and tend not to hold onto angry emotion for too long.
They don’t like doing that because it makes them feel weak.
They let go a lot quicker than women in general because guys tend to feel like they have to be the “man” in the situation and avoid prolonging the emotional.
Unfortunately, this doesn’t always mean that they intend to have the talk with you and fix things after the fact.
This is where you may have to take steps to try to address the issue in the future.
Avoid doing so too quickly.
When he gets back with you, just let things be for a while.
Let him get comfortable around you again before bringing it up.
You would have to bring it up because it is unlikely that he will.
Remember, by their nature and how they’ve been raised, guys would be less likely to talk about these sort of issues in a relationship.
They wouldn’t want to start expressing themselves because they may not know how or may consider it weak.
Hence, the onus would be on you to have a real discussion about issues that tend to make him mad and see if you can both find a middle ground.
Be humble and let him understand that you recognize that the both of you need to work on this.
You are both in this together.
This is not a one way street.
Doing this would give you both the best shot at avoiding incidents like this in the future.
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