Figuring out how to comfort your boyfriend hinges on your boyfriend’s temperament, and whether he has a problem with depression, or lacks self-esteem.
Depression, or a lack of self-esteem in his daily life is highly relevant.
Consider this no matter how unpleasant it is to do so.
It is a very dangerous trap to continuously endeavor to comfort your boyfriend when the problem goes a lot deeper than what you think.
It has nothing to do with you.
Your boyfriend has emotional issues that have plagued him for years, before he ever met you.
The point here is that you first and foremost analyze the temperament you are dealing with.
For example, does he also act like this around his family and friends?
Does he have a habit of being relatively antisocial at times?
Noticing that he is unhappy, not only around you, but also around others, is a sign of deep-rooted emotional issues that have nothing to do with you.
Don’t mislead yourself into believing that the reason why he gets unhappy is because you two argue from time to time.
It feels like that on the surface.
The underlying problem goes far deeper than any arguments you have both had.
Dig deeper than what is or isn’t the problem at face value.
Upon determining that he does act like this with others and not just you, ask yourself about how far you want to go in order to change this.
Understand that a deep-rooted problem that lies within him isn’t entirely within your power to change.
But you are a fighter and still want to fix this.
Commence with getting him to do things with you that you know he loves, whether familiar or brand new.
Regardless, keep getting him into situations that raise his spirits.
The more proactive you are in getting him involved in these activities, the more likely you increase his sense of happiness.
Due to this, he has less moments of unhappiness.
Also, when those moments do come, comfort him by repeating the process and getting him to do a new activity with you that he loves.
Be diligent in your actions.
Comforting your boyfriend is a process.
It’s possible you become impatient with it all, feeling like you are doing everything possible to make him feel at ease, but patience is a must.
He comes to comfort at a time that works best for him.
As long as you keep up the effort on your part and avoid showing him any signs that you are being impatient, he eventually comes around.
Your relationship with him is stronger for it.
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