Your trust issues stem from something that has consistently happened in past relationships, is happening in your current relationship, or has happened in your childhood.
To avoid these trust issues from affecting your relationship with your boyfriend, you have to figure out where they are coming from.
Spend quality time with yourself to figure out where these trust issues come from.
When they are coming from something that has consistently happened in your past relationships, figure out what it is.
Recall how you felt after each of these past relationships.
Did you feel betrayed, emotionally exhausted or scared?
Have you habitually rebounded into new relationships relatively quickly after them?
If you have felt any of these emotions or found yourself jumping right into new relationships on a rebound, you are going into these relationships prematurely and with excessively high expectations.
You are so concerned with how badly you want each relationship to work that you rarely give each relationship the time to develop.
When it is always about jumping right into a new relationship, you are acting like there is something really missing in yourself that you want filled.
These past relationships clearly did not fill that space, so you move on to the next after having been emotionally drained by the last.
You can’t keep bouncing around from one relationship to the next without understanding yourself first.
A relationship is not supposed to fill a space or void in yourself.
You should already be a full and complete person before you get into one.
If the trust issues are arising due to something that is consistently happening in your current relationship with your boyfriend, that issue needs to be addressed.
Open and consistent communication is so important in a relationship.
A boyfriend who has no idea about what has been bothering you within the relationship, doesn’t know what to fix or adjust in himself.
The longer this lasts, the greater the stress and deficit of trust.
You shouldn’t be afraid to talk to your boyfriend about whatever specific issue or issues within the relationship that has led to the trust issues.
Never be afraid to speak your mind.
Have an open conversation as opposed to making him feel like the bad guy or laying blame.
When the trust issues are coming from your childhood, this is a lot more deep-rooted.
You need time away from your current relationship to fix it.
Candidly talking to your family or a professional counselor about this issue is where you start.
It takes time to overcome.
Nevertheless, the sooner you begin, the better your odds of overcoming it and moving forward with your current relationship.
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