A guy already knows what he wants by the time he is sleeping with a girl.

Mentally, he is intentional about what he wants and puts her in a category.

That of a girl he either wants to only sleep with, or have a long-term relationship with.

He already knows what category he has you in by the time he has an impression of your character.

The impression he has of your character is pivotal, and sadly, this is where a significant number of women who want long-term relationships fail.

You are too overzealous, given how attracted and enamored you are by him.

This is where you are showing signs of overly aggressive and, sometimes, desperate behavior.

You are the first one to like any post he makes on social media.

The first one to initiate text messages and phone calls.

Every now and then, there are underhanded comments about a beautiful girl he is following on social media.

Many-a-time, seeing him follow a beautiful girl on social media makes you so insecure and jealous, you send sexy pics of yourself to his phone so as to compel him to compliment you.

Sadly, all of this overly aggressive behavior is pushing him to change his mind about you, and you are deathly close to him thinking that you aren’t long-term relationship material after all.

Instead of courting you properly by calling you consistently over time to get to know you as a person and eventually asking you out on a proper date, he invites you over to his place or invites himself over to your place.

You accept the offer, and sleep with him.

This is the final nail on the coffin.

He never had to court you.

Moving forward, you are only someone he sleeps with.

A long-term relationship is completely out of the question.

On the contrary, if you aren’t overzealous in showing how much you like him, but allow him to pursue and court you properly, he maintains the mindset that he wants a long-term relationship with you.

There is a buildup before that first date.

He is initiating conversations with you, asking the right questions that give him substantial insight into who you are as a person.

The more he learns about you, discovering similar interests and life experiences, the more he is confident in seeing you as someone who fits what he is looking for in a long-term partner.

His excitement for you builds, and it is reflected in how quickly he reads and likes your posts before anyone else on social media.

By the time the first date happens, he is already enamored by you.

The first date goes splendidly, lasting hours, filled with laughter over dinner at a swanky local restaurant.

Whether you sleep with him that night, or do so a few dates later, neither option changes his mind about wanting a long-term relationship with you.

What matters most is that his preliminary intentions were to find a long-term relationship, and that you fit that requirement from the start of his time getting to know you as a person.