Thinking about getting back with an ex is not a thought that is unique to only you.

Plenty of people in your position come around to thinking about getting back with an ex too.

This sentiment is usually borne of loneliness and disappointment that someone new and better hasn’t taken an ex’s place.

You have spent a few too many Friday nights alone, watching TV and scrolling through your social media feed incessantly to kill the boredom and loneliness.

Whenever you do go out, you are with your girlfriends, several of whom already have boyfriends who they talk about relentlessly.

This is a constant reminder throughout the night that you don’t have a boyfriend, or that all of the men you have dated since your ex-boyfriend haven’t worked out.

Whenever you are talking to family, your ex-boyfriend’s name comes up every so often, or something is said that indirectly references him.

Whenever you go out on your own, whether it be to get your favorite coffee at your favorite coffee shop or to a favorite department store, you are reminded of several times you were at these places with your ex-boyfriend.

You remember these moments so vividly that it is as though you are lost in an imaginary movie in your mind, feeling what you felt in those moments.

With all of this external stimuli hitting you on a constant basis, coupled with the loneliness you feel in general in not having a serious boyfriend at this moment in time, you are compelled to think about your ex-boyfriend and getting back with him.

The longer this thought is in your mind, the likelier you open yourself up to it.

All of a sudden, all you are thinking about are the wonderful memories you have of him because those memories make you feel good.

When these good feelings are triggered by these thoughts, it becomes addicting.

You want more of it.

Before you know it, you are seeking out your ex-boyfriend to see whether he is dating anyone and what he has been up to since the breakup.

Whether you are seeking him out through social media or asking questions about him to his mutual friends or family members, unbeknownst to you, you have already set everything in motion in a quest to get him back.

The crazy thing is, even if you don’t end up spearheading a reunion with your ex-boyfriend, there is a possibility that your ex-boyfriend is experiencing similar sentiments as you and is intent on reconnecting.

Oftentimes, an ex-boyfriend reconnects with an ex-girlfriend without any prompting from her, as he is also lonely and has yet to find anyone to replace her.

Next thing you know, he contacts you through social media, a phone call, or a text message out of nowhere.

Exes do this all the time.

They seek each other out due to an emotional void in their lives that is mutual.

These are acts motivated by emotion and not reason.

These exes conveniently forget about the egregious reasons why the breakup occurred in the first place.

Instead, they are motivated by the good memories they shared.

The ones that made them feel good.

The exes reconnect out of desperation, not out of growth as individuals who understand where they both went wrong and have since done the work to better themselves.

It isn’t a good idea to get back with an ex.

After the initial euphoria in getting back together wears off, the same problems arise, and another bitter breakup is inevitable.